Where I’ve Been, Who I’m Becoming, and What’s Possible

There are seasons in life when we spend so much time trying to understand where we have been that we don’t realize we are already becoming someone new.

Not a completely different person.

Not someone without scars, stories, mistakes, or hard memories.

But someone who sees herself differently.

Someone who asks different questions.

Someone who begins to recognize that healing isn’t necessarily about erasing the past.

Maybe healing is about learning how to carry the past differently—and allowing it to become part of the wisdom that shapes where we go next.

That is where I find myself today.

Looking back.
Looking within.
And looking forward.

Where I’ve Been

When I look back at some of my earliest writing, I see a woman who was trying to understand her own story.

My work with Beyond Abuse Essential Healing was born from a very personal place. The focus was on helping people move beyond abuse and find their own path toward health, wellness, and healing.

The words I wrote then came from a woman who was learning.

Learning about abuse.

Learning about survival.

Learning about triggers.

Learning about emotions.

Learning about self-worth.

Learning about forgiveness.

Learning how experiences can shape the beliefs we carry about ourselves and the world around us.

Some of those old titles still make me smile because I can see the woman behind them:

“I AM ENOUGH.”

“I Am Not a Victim, I Am in the Driver Seat.”

“I Am Becoming Wonder Woman.”

“NEW YEAR – NEW POSSIBILITIES.”

Those words may have been written years ago, but I can see now that something was already happening.

I was becoming.

I just didn’t have all the language for it yet.

My journey wasn’t about suddenly waking up one morning and deciding everything was going to be okay.

It was much messier than that.

There were difficult emotions.

There were beliefs I had to examine.

There were things I had to learn to say.

There were things I had to learn to stop saying.

There were parts of myself I had ignored because I was busy surviving, taking care of others, or simply trying to keep moving.

And there were times when I wondered whether the things I had experienced would always define me.

But somewhere along the way, a different question began to emerge:

What if they don’t?

The Question That Changed My Direction

For a long time, healing can feel like trying to get back to who you were before something happened.

But what if that isn’t the goal?

What if the goal isn’t to go backward?

What if the goal is to move forward with greater awareness?

That question has changed the way I see my own journey.

I don’t want to spend the rest of my life defined by what happened to me.

But I also don’t want to pretend it didn’t happen.

Both things can be true.

My story matters.

And:

My story is not the whole of me.

That distinction has become incredibly important to me.

Healing Isn’t About Becoming Someone New

This is one of the messages that has become central to Beyond Possibilities:

Healing isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about uncovering who you’ve always been created to be.

For me, this includes my faith.

I believe God created each of us with purpose, worth, gifts, and possibilities that are not erased by the difficult things we experience.

Sometimes life teaches us beliefs about ourselves that aren’t aligned with that truth.

We may begin to believe:

I’m not enough.
I should have done more.
I have to take care of everyone else first.
My feelings are a problem.
I need to be perfect.
I can’t trust myself.
This is just the way I am.
This is as good as life gets.

But beliefs can be examined.

We can become aware of the stories we carry.

We can ask whether those stories are still serving us.

And we can begin creating room for something different.

This doesn’t mean that simply changing a thought magically changes our lives.

It means that awareness gives us an opportunity to choose how we respond.

Psychological research has long explored the relationship between thoughts, emotions, behavior, and physiological responses. Practices such as mindfulness and expressive writing can support greater self-awareness and emotional processing, while movement-based approaches have also been studied for psychological well-being (Farb et al., 2015; Koch et al., 2019; Pennebaker & Smyth, 2016).

That is part of why I have become so interested in the relationship between the mind, body, and spirit.

We are not just a mind walking around inside a body.

Our experiences are interconnected.

Learning to Listen

One of my more recent articles is titled “Healing Begins When We Listen.”

That title didn’t come from nowhere.

It reflects where I am now.

I am learning to listen differently.

To my thoughts.

To my emotions.

To my body.

To my relationships.

To my spiritual life.

To the questions that keep showing up.

Research on interoception—the ability to sense and interpret signals from within the body—has helped deepen our understanding of the connection between bodily awareness, emotion, and self-awareness (Farb et al., 2015).

And I have discovered something beautiful in that process:

Listening doesn’t mean believing that every sensation has a hidden message.

It means becoming curious instead of immediately judgmental.

Instead of:

“What’s wrong with me?”

I can ask:

“What am I experiencing?”

Instead of:

“Why can’t I just get over this?”

I can ask:

“What do I need right now?”

Instead of:

“Why am I feeling this?”

I can ask:

“What can I learn from noticing this?”

That is a very different way of living.

From Surviving to Becoming

When I look at the progression of my writing over the years, I can see the shift.

My earlier work centered heavily around moving beyond abuse and healing from painful experiences.

My newer work explores:

self-care without guilt,

mind-body connection,

movement and emotion,

family communication,

grounding,

mindfulness,

gratitude,

faith,

wellness,

and becoming.

My Beyond Possibilities articles now include questions like:

What if?

What happens when we reclaim our voice?

What does it mean to become through the journey?

What happens when we learn to listen to our mind, body, and spirit?

Those aren’t the questions of someone who has arrived.

They’re the questions of someone who is still becoming.

And I think that’s important to say.

Because I don’t want to present myself as someone who has figured everything out.

I haven’t.

I’m still learning.

I’m still growing.

I’m still questioning.

I’m still healing.

I’m still discovering.

And honestly?

I think that’s part of the beauty.

Becoming Doesn’t Mean Leaving the Old Me Behind

Sometimes we talk about transformation as though we should be ashamed of who we used to be.

I don’t see it that way anymore.

I have compassion for the woman I was.

She was doing the best she could with what she knew at the time.

She was learning.

She was surviving.

She was searching.

She was trying to make sense of things.

She was looking for answers.

And she kept going.

I don’t need to reject her to become who I am today.

I can thank her.

I can learn from her.

I can honor her.

And I can keep moving forward.

Maybe that’s what becoming really looks like.

Not destroying the old version of ourselves.

Not pretending we were never hurt.

Not creating some perfect new identity.

But integrating what we’ve learned and allowing ourselves to grow.

Carl Jung described individuation as a process through which different aspects of the self become more conscious and integrated.

That idea resonates deeply with the direction my own journey has taken.

Becoming whole doesn’t mean becoming perfect.

It means becoming more aware of who we are.

And Then There Are New Possibilities

This is where Beyond Possibilities comes in.

The name isn’t accidental.

I’ve been writing about possibilities for years.

Even back in 2018, one of my Beyond Abuse Essential Healing posts was titled “I AM ENOUGH! NEW YEAR – NEW POSSIBILITIES.”

And in 2020, I wrote “Oh The Places We’ve Been, Now on to What is Possible.”

Looking back, I realize the possibility was always there.

I just kept discovering new layers of what it meant.

Today, Beyond Possibilities isn’t simply about helping someone move away from something painful.

It’s about asking:

What might become possible when we understand ourselves more deeply?

What becomes possible when we learn to listen?

What becomes possible when we examine our beliefs?

What becomes possible when we stop treating self-care like something we have to earn?

What becomes possible when we give ourselves permission to learn?

What becomes possible when we reconnect with our bodies?

What becomes possible when we move?

What becomes possible when we slow down?

What becomes possible when we invite God into the process?

What becomes possible when we stop asking only,

“What’s wrong with me?”

and begin asking,

“Who am I becoming?”

I Am Still Becoming

I don’t know exactly what the next chapter looks like.

And I’m learning to be okay with that.

I recently completed my bachelor’s degree in Human and Family Services, and I am continuing my education and training because I believe learning is part of becoming.

I’m exploring new ways to educate, uplift, inspire, empower, and support others.

I’m continuing to learn about the mind.

The body.

The spirit.

Emotions.

Beliefs.

Movement.

Wellness.

Relationships.

Faith.

And the many different ways we can become more aware of ourselves and the lives we are creating.

Some of the tools and approaches I use come from my own education, training, professional experience, and personal journey.

Others are areas I continue to study and explore.

And that distinction matters to me.

I don’t need to have every answer to walk beside someone while they discover their own questions.

I don’t need to promise someone a perfect outcome.

I can educate.

I can share what I’m learning.

I can offer tools for reflection.

I can encourage.

I can listen.

I can create space.

And I can remind someone that their possibilities may be bigger than the story they have been carrying.

Maybe You Are Becoming Too

Maybe you are somewhere in the middle of your own story.

Maybe you’re still trying to understand where you’ve been.

Maybe you’re exhausted from taking care of everyone else.

Maybe you’ve spent years believing that you have to be stronger, better, thinner, smarter, happier, more successful, or more put together before you can finally feel worthy.

Maybe you’re beginning to question some of those beliefs.

Maybe you’re healing.

Maybe you’re rebuilding.

Maybe you’re simply curious about what else might be possible.

Wherever you are, I don’t think you have to have it all figured out.

You can begin with one question.

What if?

What if there is more to your story?

What if you are not broken?

What if the parts of yourself you’ve been trying to hide are actually asking to be understood?

What if healing isn’t about becoming someone else?

What if it is about discovering more of who you were created to be?

And what if becoming isn’t something you eventually finish?

What if becoming is simply the beautiful, sometimes messy, sometimes painful, sometimes joyful process of continuing to grow?

Where I’ve Been. Who I’m Becoming. What’s Possible.

So this is where I am today.

I honor where I’ve been.

I am curious about who I’m becoming.

And I am open to what’s possible.

I don’t have to erase my past to embrace my future.

I don’t have to be finished healing before I can experience joy.

I don’t have to know exactly where the path leads before I take the next step.

I can learn.

I can grow.

I can listen.

I can question.

I can move.

I can rest.

I can pray.

I can begin again.

And I can become.

Because perhaps the greatest possibility isn’t becoming the person I think I should be.

Perhaps it is becoming more fully the person God created me to be.

And maybe…

you are becoming, too.

A Possibility Ponder Point

Take a few minutes today and write without judging or correcting yourself:

Where have I been?

What experiences, beliefs, relationships, or circumstances have shaped the person I am today?

What have I learned?

What wisdom, strength, awareness, or compassion has come from my journey?

Who am I becoming?

What qualities do I want to develop—not because I need to become “better,” but because they feel aligned with who I want to be?

What’s possible now?

If I stopped assuming that my past determines my future, what possibility would I be willing to explore?

And finally:

What if I don’t have to become someone new?
What if I am simply becoming more fully me?

A Note From Me

My work is educational and experiential. I am not a physician or mental-health provider, and the tools and practices I share are not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace professional medical or mental-health care.

My hope is simpler:

To uplift.
To inspire.
To empower.
To educate.

And to create a place where we can explore the mind, body, and spirit together while remembering that every person’s journey is uniquely their own.

This is Beyond Possibilities.

And I’m still becoming.

Maybe you are, too.

References

Farb, N. A. S., Daubenmier, J., Price, C. J., Gard, T., Kerr, C. E., Dunn, B. D., Klein, A. C., Paulus, M. P., & Mehling, W. E. (2015). Interoception, contemplative practice, and health. Frontiers in Psychology, 6, Article 763. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2015.00763

Jung, C. G. (1966). Two essays on analytical psychology (R. F. C. Hull, Trans.). Princeton University Press.

Koch, S. C., Riege, R. F. F., Tisborn, K., Biondo, J., Martin, L., & Beelmann, A. (2019). Effects of dance movement therapy and dance on health-related psychological outcomes: A meta-analysis. The Arts in Psychotherapy, 63, 118–127. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.aip.2018.12.004

Pennebaker, J. W., & Smyth, J. M. (2016). Opening up by writing it down: How expressive writing improves health and eases emotional pain (3rd ed.). Guilford Press.

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Finding Balance: Grounding, Natural Frequencies, and the Science of Connection

August 6, 2026August 6, 2026 Beyond Possibilities

In today’s fast-paced world, many of us spend more time indoors than ever before. We wear shoes with insulating soles, work under artificial lighting, and are constantly surrounded by technology. While these conveniences have transformed modern life, they have also increased interest in simple practices that reconnect us with the natural world. One of those practices is grounding, also known as earthing.

Grounding is the practice of making direct physical contact with the Earth’s surface by walking barefoot on grass, soil, sand, or other natural surfaces. Although the concept may sound simple, researchers have begun exploring how this connection may influence human physiology. Studies suggest that direct contact with the Earth may allow the body to exchange electrons with the Earth’s surface, potentially helping to reduce oxidative stress, support healthy inflammatory responses, improve sleep quality, and promote balance within the autonomic nervous system (Chevalier et al., 2012).

Several peer-reviewed studies have reported improvements in physiological markers related to stress, inflammation, circulation, pain perception, and sleep following grounding practices (Chevalier et al., 2012; Oschman et al., 2015). While larger clinical trials are still needed, the current body of research suggests that grounding is a safe, inexpensive complementary wellness practice that may support overall physical and emotional well-being.

Our bodies themselves are electrical systems. Every heartbeat is generated by electrical impulses, every nerve cell communicates through electrical signals, and our brains produce measurable electrical activity known as brain waves. These waves are categorized into several frequency ranges—including delta, theta, alpha, beta, and gamma—and each is associated with different states of consciousness, attention, and relaxation. Practices such as meditation, deep breathing, spending time in nature, and grounding have all been associated with shifts toward brain wave patterns linked with calm attention and relaxation, although responses vary between individuals (Cahn & Polich, 2006).

One of the most fascinating areas of ongoing research involves the Earth’s natural electromagnetic environment. The Earth and its atmosphere form a giant resonant cavity that produces naturally occurring electromagnetic waves known as Schumann resonances. The fundamental Schumann resonance averages approximately 7.83 Hz, although it fluctuates slightly based on global lightning activity and atmospheric conditions (Besser, 2007). This is not the frequency at which the Earth physically vibrates, but rather the primary resonant frequency of the space between the Earth’s surface and the ionosphere.

Because 7.83 Hz falls near the upper theta and lower alpha brain wave ranges, researchers have explored whether these naturally occurring electromagnetic fields may influence biological rhythms. At present, however, there is no conclusive scientific evidence demonstrating that exposure to Schumann resonances directly improves health or causes specific physiological changes in humans. The relationship remains an intriguing area of investigation rather than an established medical fact.

Researchers are also investigating whether other frequencies may support healing and mental wellness. One of the most promising areas involves 40 Hz gamma stimulation. Early neuroscience research has shown that exposure to light or sound pulsing at 40 Hz may help synchronize gamma brain wave activity, a frequency associated with attention, learning, memory, and cognitive processing. Animal studies and early human clinical trials suggest this approach may support neuroplasticity and is being explored as a potential complementary intervention for cognitive decline and Alzheimer’s disease, though much more research is needed before clinical recommendations can be made (Chan et al., 2021).

Beyond 40 Hz stimulation, scientists continue to study the therapeutic effects of music, rhythm, and sound. Music therapy has consistently demonstrated benefits for reducing stress, easing anxiety, improving mood, and supporting emotional regulation across diverse populations (Bradt et al., 2021). Researchers are also examining binaural beats and vibroacoustic therapy as potential tools for relaxation, sleep, and stress reduction. While some studies show encouraging results, findings remain mixed, and additional high-quality research is needed.

You may also have heard claims about specific “healing frequencies” such as 432 Hz, 528 Hz, or the Solfeggio frequencies. These frequencies have gained popularity in wellness communities and are often associated with claims of emotional, physical, or spiritual healing. Although many individuals report positive personal experiences while listening to music tuned to these frequencies, current peer-reviewed research has not demonstrated that these frequencies possess unique healing properties beyond those of calming music in general. This does not diminish the value many people find in listening to them, but it does remind us to distinguish personal experience from scientific evidence.

One conclusion does emerge consistently throughout the research: our minds and bodies benefit from slowing down, spending time outdoors, engaging with nature, and participating in practices that reduce stress. Whether you choose to walk barefoot through the grass, sit beneath a favorite tree, breathe deeply while listening to calming music, or simply take a mindful walk in nature, these simple habits encourage nervous system regulation and create opportunities to reconnect with yourself and the world around you.

Science continues to explore the complex relationship between our bodies, our environment, and the frequencies that surround us. As our understanding grows, one truth remains beautifully simple: sometimes the most profound wellness practices are also the most accessible. The Earth has always been beneath our feet, inviting us to pause, breathe, and reconnect.

References

Besser, B. P. (2007). Synopsis of the historical development of Schumann resonances. Radio Science, 42(2), RS2S02. https://doi.org/10.1029/2006RS003495

Bradt, J., Dileo, C., Magill, L., & Teague, A. (2021). Music interventions for improving psychological and physical outcomes in adults with cancer. Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews, 10, CD006911. https://doi.org/10.1002/14651858.CD006911.pub4

Cahn, B. R., & Polich, J. (2006). Meditation states and traits: EEG, ERP, and neuroimaging studies. Psychological Bulletin, 132(2), 180–211. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.132.2.180

Chan, D., et al. (2021). Gamma frequency sensory stimulation in mild probable Alzheimer’s dementia patients: Results of a preliminary clinical trial. Alzheimer’s Research & Therapy, 13, 22. https://doi.org/10.1186/s13195-021-00770-8

Chevalier, G., Sinatra, S. T., Oschman, J. L., Delany, R. M., & Inglis, S. (2012). Earthing: Health implications of reconnecting the human body to the Earth’s surface electrons. Journal of Environmental and Public Health, 2012, Article 291541. https://doi.org/10.1155/2012/291541

Oschman, J. L., Chevalier, G., & Brown, R. (2015). The effects of grounding (earthing) on inflammation, the immune response, wound healing, and prevention and treatment of chronic inflammatory and autoimmune diseases. Journal of Inflammation Research, 8, 83–96. https://doi.org/10.2147/JIR.S69656

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Could Your Story Begin Before You Were Born?

July 14, 2026 Beyond Possibilities

Research suggests that prenatal experiences influence the developing nervous system, stress response, and emotional regulation through fetal programming and epigenetic mechanisms. These early biological patterns may later interact with childhood relationships and experiences to shape subconscious beliefs and self-talk. While there is strong evidence that learning and physiological adaptation begin before birth, there is currently no scientific evidence that a fetus forms conscious beliefs or an internal dialogue in the womb (Monk et al., 2019).

Although science does not support the idea that babies develop conscious beliefs before birth, it does demonstrate that our earliest environments help shape the nervous system that later influences how we respond to stress, relationships, and emotional experiences. As we grow, those biological tendencies interact with family dynamics, culture, education, life experiences, and personal relationships. Over time, repeated experiences can contribute to subconscious beliefs that influence how we think, feel, and respond to the world around us.

The encouraging news is that our story is never finished. While our past may influence us, it does not define our future. Throughout life, our brains retain the ability to adapt, reorganize, and develop new neural pathways—a remarkable ability known as neuroplasticity (Doidge, 2015). Healing is possible.

Carl Jung’s Perspective: Bringing the Unconscious into Awareness

Swiss psychiatrist Carl Gustav Jung believed that much of human suffering comes from unconscious patterns that quietly influence our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors (Jung, 1964). According to Jung, healing begins when we become aware of these hidden aspects of ourselves.

He famously wrote:

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate” (Jung1964).

Although this statement is widely quoted, it beautifully summarizes one of Jung’s central ideas: we cannot change what we are unwilling or unable to see.

Jung believed that many emotional reactions are connected to unresolved experiences that become stored outside of our conscious awareness. These hidden patterns may appear as recurring fears, unhealthy relationship dynamics, perfectionism, people-pleasing, shame, anxiety, or feelings of unworthiness.

Rather than judging these parts of ourselves, Jung encouraged us to approach them with curiosity and compassion.

Shadow Work: Meeting the Parts We’ve Hidden

One of Jung’s most influential concepts is the Shadow.

The Shadow represents the parts of ourselves we have rejected, ignored, or hidden because they felt unacceptable, unsafe, or painful (Jung, 1959). These hidden parts are not necessarily “bad.” They often include unmet needs, painful memories, natural gifts, creativity, confidence, vulnerability, and emotions we learned to suppress.

Healing involves gently bringing these hidden aspects into awareness so they can be understood instead of feared.

Helpful questions include:

What situations trigger strong emotional reactions?
What beliefs about myself continue to repeat?
What emotions do I avoid feeling?
What strengths have I hidden to gain acceptance?
What younger part of me might still need compassion?

Healing the Whole Person

I believe healing is most effective when we consider the whole person—mind, body, emotions, relationships, and spirit. No single approach works for everyone. Instead, many people benefit from combining evidence-based practices with complementary approaches that align with their values and goals.

Evidence-Based Practices

Research supports several approaches that can help individuals identify and reshape unhelpful patterns, including:

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which helps identify and challenge distorted thinking patterns (Beck, 2021).
Mindfulness practices, which increase present-moment awareness and reduce emotional reactivity (Kabat-Zinn, 2013).
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which encourages people to accept difficult emotions while living according to their values (Hayes et al., 2012).
Trauma-informed counseling, which recognizes how past experiences influence present functioning and emphasizes safety, empowerment, and resilience (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration [SAMHSA], 2014).

These approaches have a growing body of scientific evidence supporting their effectiveness for many individuals.

Complementary Healing Modalities

Many people also find value in complementary healing modalities that focus on emotional awareness, energy, and holistic well-being. While research supporting these approaches is more limited, some individuals report meaningful personal benefits when they are used alongside—not as replacements for—appropriate medical or mental health care.

Examples include:

Emotion Code®, which is intended to help identify and release unresolved emotional patterns.
Body Code®, a holistic system that explores possible energetic, nutritional, structural, and emotional imbalances.
Belief Code®, which focuses on identifying and releasing limiting subconscious beliefs that may influence thoughts and behaviors.
Breathwork, which may help regulate the nervous system and reduce stress.
Guided meditation and visualization.
Journaling and reflective writing.
Prayer and spiritual practices.
Aromatherapy as a supportive wellness practice.
Yoga and mindful movement.
Massage therapy and body-based relaxation techniques.
Nature therapy and spending intentional time outdoors.
Strengths-based coaching that helps individuals recognize and build upon their natural talents.

These approaches may support self-awareness, emotional regulation, and personal growth for some people, though they should not be viewed as established treatments for mental health conditions.

Healing Begins with Awareness

Whether healing begins through counseling, journaling, prayer, meditation, coaching, or another supportive practice, the first step is often the same: awareness.

When we begin noticing our automatic thoughts without judgment, we create space for change.

Instead of asking,

“What’s wrong with me?”

We can begin asking,

“What happened that taught me to believe this?”

and eventually,

“Is this belief still serving the person I want to become?”

Those questions open the door to transformation.

Your Story Is Still Being Written

You are not defined by your earliest experiences.

You are not limited by your past.

You are not your automatic thoughts.

Healing is a journey of discovering who you have always been beneath fear, pain, and limiting beliefs. It is a process of reconnecting with your strengths, your values, your purpose, and your capacity to grow.

Carl Jung believed that becoming whole requires embracing every part of ourselves—not only the parts we celebrate, but also the parts we have hidden away.

At Beyond Possibilities, we believe that healing is not about becoming someone else. It is about uncovering the resilience, wisdom, and possibility that have been within you all along.

Your story did not end with your first experiences. Every day offers a new opportunity to grow, heal, and move beyond limitations into greater possibilities.

References

Beck, J. S. (2021). Cognitive behavior therapy: Basics and beyond (3rd ed.). Guilford Press.

Doidge, N. (2015). The brain’s way of healing: Remarkable discoveries and recoveries from the frontiers of neuroplasticity. Viking.

Hayes, S. C., Strosahl, K. D., & Wilson, K. G. (2012). Acceptance and commitment therapy: The process and practice of mindful change (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.

Jung, C. G. (1959). Aion: Researches into the phenomenology of the self (R. F. C. Hull, Trans.). Princeton University Press. (Original work published 1951)

Jung, C. G. (1964). Man and his symbols. Doubleday.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (2013). Full catastrophe living (Revised ed.). Bantam Books.

Monk, C., Lugo-Candelas, C., & Trumpff, C. (2019). Prenatal developmental origins of future psychopathology: Mechanisms and pathways. Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, 15, 317–344. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-clinpsy-050718-095539

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. (2014). SAMHSA’s concept of trauma and guidance for a trauma-informed approach (HHS Publication No. SMA 14-4884). U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

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Becoming Through the Journey: Stepping Into What Is Next

May 14, 2026June 2, 2026 Beyond Possibilities

There are moments in life when we realize we are no longer the person we used to be.

Not because life was easy.
Not because every plan worked out.
But because the journey itself changed us.

As I step into the final term of my Bachelor’s degree in Human and Family Services, I find myself reflecting on what it truly means to grow. This degree was never just about education. It became a journey of healing, stretching, rediscovering purpose, and learning how to become who I was always capable of becoming.

Growth rarely arrives wrapped in comfort.

Sometimes it comes through heartbreak.
Sometimes through uncertainty.
Sometimes through seasons where we feel completely unqualified for what lies ahead.

Yet somehow, those very seasons shape us into people who can carry greater wisdom, compassion, and strength.

One of the most powerful truths I have learned is this:

We are not stuck.
We are becoming.

A growth mindset teaches us that our abilities, understanding, and character are not fixed. We can learn new things. We can adapt. We can rise after failure. We can rebuild after loss. We can develop strengths we never imagined we possessed.

Too often society quietly whispers that growth belongs to the young — that there is a timeline for dreams, education, purpose, or transformation.

But life tells a different story.

People rediscover themselves in their 40s.
They begin new careers in their 50s.
They heal old wounds in their 60s.
They finally believe in themselves after decades of self-doubt.

You are never too old to learn.
Never too old to heal.
Never too old to dream again.
Never too old to become more.

Every experience we walk through carries the potential to teach us something meaningful if we are willing to grow through it instead of merely survive it.

There is something deeply sacred about stepping into “what’s next” even when the future feels uncertain.

Growth often requires leaving behind familiar versions of ourselves. The identities built around fear, shame, limitation, or survival cannot always follow us into the next season. Sometimes God lovingly invites us to release who we had to be so we can become who we were created to be.

Our divine purpose is not usually revealed all at once.

It unfolds step by step.

Lesson by lesson.
Season by season.
Experience by experience.

Looking back, I can now see that many of the hardest moments in my life were also preparing me to better understand people, extend compassion, and walk alongside others with empathy and authenticity. Human and Family Services is not simply a degree to me; it is an extension of lived experience transformed into purpose.

The beautiful thing about growth is that it changes not only what we do — it changes how we see ourselves.

We stop defining ourselves by our past mistakes.
We stop believing that setbacks mean failure.
We begin to understand that becoming takes time.

A seed does not apologize for needing seasons to grow.
Neither should we.

There is courage in beginning again.
There is courage in learning.
There is courage in admitting we do not have everything figured out yet.
And there is incredible courage in continuing forward despite fear.

If you are standing at the edge of a life-changing season right now, wondering whether you are capable of stepping into what comes next, this is your reminder:

You do not need to have every answer before taking the next step.

Growth happens while walking.

Purpose unfolds while becoming.

And sometimes the very fact that you are willing to keep growing is evidence that something greater is already unfolding within you.

Maybe this next chapter is not about proving yourself.

Maybe it is about finally believing that your life still holds purpose, possibility, and room to grow.

No matter your age.
No matter your past.
No matter how delayed your journey may feel.

You are still becoming.

And that becoming matters.

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What If?

April 7, 2026April 7, 2026 Beyond Possibilities

Yesterday, I took time to ponder the open ended question “What if?”

I then published the following video:

As I continued to ponder that question throughout the day more and more clarity come from it.

This morning it lead me to creating a poem/song with the help of AI that help me organize my thought beautifully.

What if…I Know…

What if I knew the power of words and grew up believing in me?
What if I knew I was beautiful and could see my own divinity?
What if my voice felt safe, and my truth was always enough?
What if I trusted my path, even when it felt uncertain or tough?
What if every part of me—healing, whole, and free—
Was always leading me back to the highest version of me?

What if I knew the power of words and grew up believing in me?
What if I knew I was beautiful and could see my own divinity?
What if I spoke life into every cell, every dream, every desire?
What if I realized my worth was never something to acquire?
What if I stopped shrinking and finally chose to rise—
And saw my reflection through truth instead of old disguise?

What if I knew the power of words and grew up believing in me?
What if I knew I was beautiful and could see my own divinity?
What if the child within me felt safe, seen, and heard?
What if love was the language behind every single word?
What if I rewrote the story that once held me small—
And remembered I was worthy, I was always enough… through it all?

What if I knew the power of words and grew up believing in me?
What if I knew I was beautiful and could see my own divinity?
What if I breathed in truth and released every lie?
What if I trusted my wings were always meant to fly?
What if I softened, surrendered, and allowed myself to be—
Exactly who I was created, unapologetically free?

I know the power of words and I believe in me.
I know I am beautiful. I see my divinity.
I speak life into my cells, my dreams, my desire.
I trust in my worth—there’s nothing left to acquire.
I rise in my truth, no longer needing disguise—
I stand in my power and honor what’s inside.

I know the power of words and I believe in me.
I know I am beautiful. I see my divinity.
I am safe in my voice, every part now free.
I am held in my path, becoming all I can be.
Every piece of my healing has led me to see—
I am whole, I am worthy, I am already me.

Let that sink in. Stop listening to the noise that makes you feel less than and small. Start loving yourself and choosing a different narrative.

I dedicate this song to my husband Joseph, who saw through my past and saw me, who has encouraged my healing journey and who has been my biggest cheerleader and support. He encourages me to follow my dreams and my intuition. He has supported me going to college and getting my degree in Human and Family Services to which I will be graduating with my Bachelor’s degree in the Summer of 2026.

I am grateful for my children who have taught me so much along the way and who have been supportive as I learn, grow, make mistake, and change during my healing journey and life.

I am also grateful for Ronai Brumett who has also help me step into my strengths and who I am. Checkout RonaiBrumett.com to she her amazing work. She took me kicking and screaming to my first AromaDance class and now dancing has become a huge part of my healing journey. She introduced me to Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson and now I am a Certified Emotion Code, Body Code, and Belief Code Practitioner. She introduced me to Eddie Villa and his Unleash Your Strengths book and work. The two of them have helped me understand who I was divinely created by God to be.

I am grateful for my tribe who been with me through ups and downs. I am also grateful for everyone who has influenced my journey whether it as good or bad. Without my experiences I would not be where I am now.

Are you ready to discover you and define yourself differently?

What If …

You are beautiful, You are Powerful, You are safe, You are enough, You are safe, You are whole, You are worthy, You are already who You are meat to be!