Family Life Education, Healing Journey, Self-Discovery

Becoming Through the Journey: Stepping Into What Is Next

There are moments in life when we realize we are no longer the person we used to be.

Not because life was easy.
Not because every plan worked out.
But because the journey itself changed us.

As I step into the final term of my Bachelor’s degree in Human and Family Services, I find myself reflecting on what it truly means to grow. This degree was never just about education. It became a journey of healing, stretching, rediscovering purpose, and learning how to become who I was always capable of becoming.

Growth rarely arrives wrapped in comfort.

Sometimes it comes through heartbreak.
Sometimes through uncertainty.
Sometimes through seasons where we feel completely unqualified for what lies ahead.

Yet somehow, those very seasons shape us into people who can carry greater wisdom, compassion, and strength.

One of the most powerful truths I have learned is this:

We are not stuck.
We are becoming.

A growth mindset teaches us that our abilities, understanding, and character are not fixed. We can learn new things. We can adapt. We can rise after failure. We can rebuild after loss. We can develop strengths we never imagined we possessed.

Too often society quietly whispers that growth belongs to the young — that there is a timeline for dreams, education, purpose, or transformation.

But life tells a different story.

People rediscover themselves in their 40s.
They begin new careers in their 50s.
They heal old wounds in their 60s.
They finally believe in themselves after decades of self-doubt.

You are never too old to learn.
Never too old to heal.
Never too old to dream again.
Never too old to become more.

Every experience we walk through carries the potential to teach us something meaningful if we are willing to grow through it instead of merely survive it.

There is something deeply sacred about stepping into “what’s next” even when the future feels uncertain.

Growth often requires leaving behind familiar versions of ourselves. The identities built around fear, shame, limitation, or survival cannot always follow us into the next season. Sometimes God lovingly invites us to release who we had to be so we can become who we were created to be.

Our divine purpose is not usually revealed all at once.

It unfolds step by step.

Lesson by lesson.
Season by season.
Experience by experience.

Looking back, I can now see that many of the hardest moments in my life were also preparing me to better understand people, extend compassion, and walk alongside others with empathy and authenticity. Human and Family Services is not simply a degree to me; it is an extension of lived experience transformed into purpose.

The beautiful thing about growth is that it changes not only what we do — it changes how we see ourselves.

We stop defining ourselves by our past mistakes.
We stop believing that setbacks mean failure.
We begin to understand that becoming takes time.

A seed does not apologize for needing seasons to grow.
Neither should we.

There is courage in beginning again.
There is courage in learning.
There is courage in admitting we do not have everything figured out yet.
And there is incredible courage in continuing forward despite fear.

If you are standing at the edge of a life-changing season right now, wondering whether you are capable of stepping into what comes next, this is your reminder:

You do not need to have every answer before taking the next step.

Growth happens while walking.

Purpose unfolds while becoming.

And sometimes the very fact that you are willing to keep growing is evidence that something greater is already unfolding within you.

Maybe this next chapter is not about proving yourself.

Maybe it is about finally believing that your life still holds purpose, possibility, and room to grow.

No matter your age.
No matter your past.
No matter how delayed your journey may feel.

You are still becoming.

And that becoming matters.

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Building Positive Communication
Family Life Education, Self-Discovery

Building Trust Through Positive Communication: How Word Choice Builds Trust in Families

Good communication is at the heart of every healthy family relationship. In our latest workshop, we explored how the words we choose — especially in moments of stress — can either open a door to connection or close it. Even if you weren’t able to attend, the principles we discussed can help you strengthen your communication at home.

Why Word Choice Matters

Children and adolescents don’t just hear our words — they interpret the tone, structure, and intent behind them (Alejandra & Kataoka, 2017; Zapf et al., 2022). A phrase meant as guidance can sometimes sound like blame. For example:

  • Saying to a teen, “Why can’t you ever remember to text me?” may feel accusatory and lead to withdrawal.
  • Rephrased as, “I feel anxious when I don’t hear from you after school because I care about you. A quick text reassures me you’re safe,” the same concern becomes collaborative and caring.

These subtle shifts make a big difference in whether your child shuts down or leans in. Research shows that positive communication is linked to better family health and well-being (Kang et al., 2019) and can buffer stress for both parents and children (Rosland et al., 2011).

“I-Statements” vs. “You-Statements”

When emotions run high, our phrasing matters.

  • You-statements (e.g., “You never listen!”) point outward and often trigger defensiveness and conflict (Busby & Chiu, 2017).
  • I-statements (e.g., “I feel frustrated when instructions aren’t followed because it creates more work for me”) take ownership of feelings, reduce blame, and make room for dialogue (The Importance of “I-Statements,” n.d.).

Studies show that authentic I-statements help children feel respected, even when they are being corrected, and are associated with greater trust and healthier emotional regulation (Ouyang & Cheung, 2023; Yang et al., 2024). Families that practice open, consistent communication build resilience and stronger bonds (Family Strengths: Communication, 2020).

How to Put This into Practice

  • Pause before reacting. Take a breath and think: Am I about to use a “You-statement”?
  • Reframe with “I.” Center your message on your own feelings and needs, not blame.
  • Model growth. If you slip, rephrase aloud. This shows your children you are working on communication too.
  • Practice together. Try rewriting common household frustrations into I-statements as a family exercise.

The more you practice, the easier it becomes. Over time, your words can become a tool for connection, cooperation, and trust.

📚 References

Alejandra, A. M., & Kataoka, S. (2017). Family communication styles and resilience among adolescents. Social Work, 62(3), 261–269. https://doi.org/10.2307/44652409

Busby, D. M., & Chiu, L. H. (2017). Perceived conflict styles of adult children and their parents: What is the connection? Journal of Child and Family Studies, 26(12), 3412–3424. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10826-017-0839-9

Family Strengths: Communication. (2020). Forever Families. https://foreverfamilies.byu.edu/family-strengths-communication

Kang, S. Y., Lee, J. A., & Kim, Y. S. (2019). Impact of family communications on self-rated health of couples who visited primary care physicians: A cross-sectional analysis of Family Cohort Study in Primary Care. PLOS ONE, 14(3), e0213427. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0213427

Ouyang, Q., & Cheung, R. Y. M. (2023). Mother–child versus father–child conflict and emerging adults’ depressive symptoms: The role of trust in parents and maladaptive emotional regulation. Journal of Adult Development, 30(2), 145–157. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10804-022-09431-1

Rosland, A., Heisler, M., & Piette, J. D. (2011). The impact of family behaviors and communication patterns on chronic illness outcomes: A systematic review. Journal of Behavioral Medicine, 35(2), 221–239. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10865-011-9354-4

The Importance of “I-Statements” in Relationships. (n.d.). Tony Robbins. https://www.tonyrobbins.com/blog/words-matter-you-vs-i

Yang, K. N., Bergman, K. N., & Cummings, E. M. (2024). Mother–adolescent communication and father–adolescent communication: Analyzing a 4-week family intervention using multi-informant data. Journal of Research on Adolescence, 35(1). https://doi.org/10.1111/jor.12995

Zapf, H., Boettcher, J., Haukeland, Y. B., Orm, S., Coslar, S., Wiegand-Grefe, S., & Fjermestad, K. (2022). A systematic review of parent–child communication measures: Instruments and their psychometric properties. Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review, 26(1), 121–142. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10567-022-00414-3

Winsberg, M. (2022). Speaking in thumbs. Doubleday.