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Self-care first is not just in case of an emergency!
Essential Oils, Health, Self-Discovery

Self-care first is not just in case of an emergency!

When we fly the flight attendant tells us in the event of an emergency place your mask on first and then assist others. Self-care first is not just in case of an emergency! Self-care should be part of our daily routine, but too often it is not. 

I used to think that self-care was about personal hygiene, but it is not. Nor is it one size fits all. It does however include proper rest, nutrition, exercise, but most important is about doing things for yourself that bring you joy and rejuvenate you physically and mentally. It can be journaling, spending time with friends, reading, dancing, meditation, etc. I think you get the idea. 

This month as I have been focusing on pursuing kindness I realized that kindness need to be focused inward as well as outward. I need to be kind to myself as I set the tone of how others treat me.  When I am not kind to myself and my focus is on taking care of others my reserves got low, I burnt out.

This morning as I was mowing our lawn (which I love to do) I once again remembered how important nature is to my self-care. When I was a child I would lay in the grass and recharge. It wasn’t until 15 or so years ago that I learned about grounding. (Grounding refers to connecting with the Earth’s surface electrons by walking barefoot outside, laying or sitting in the grass  that transfer the energy from the ground into the body.)

I was then prompted to record a Release and Receive Grounding to share. 

Essential Oils is also part of my daily self-care. They are key to supporting my emotional and physical well-being. doTerra Balance Grounding Bend is key to my daily self-care routine. I place it on my feet each morning to support my grounding. I also use Frankincense daily to support my prayer and meditation. With essential oils I am able to support my emotions aromatically throughout the day. 

Having a AM/PM routine that includes self-care scheduled is what I find works best for me. Here just a sample:

Download a blank sheet

The key to self-care is finding what you need to rejuvenate physically and mentally and how best to make it part of your routine. Don’t try to make drastic changes all at once or you will not stick to it. 

As I take care of myself first with proper rest, nutrition, exercise, and fun, I have more to give others. Therefore, self-care first is not just in case of an emergency!

Fight, Flight to Burnout
Health, Self-Discovery

2020 Fight or Flight to Burnout

March 2020 started out with excitement, our oldest daughter was going to be coming home from college for Spring Break. We had plans for spending time together, but I can’t remember what they were. What I do remember is after my daughter arrived home, we received a letter from the Health Department stating that our second daughter was quarantined at home until March 27, 2020 due to 3 cases of COVID-19 at their school. We were devastated, but little did we know this was only the beginning. For me some of the timelines are mixed up in mind. What I do know is that it was unlike anything I had experienced before. Schools moved to distance learning to slow the spread of COVID-19, but no one knew what they were doing. My oldest daughter did an emergency transfer with her job to the location here.

As if the chaos of a pandemic was not enough, on the morning of March 18th, I was standing in the kitchen getting ready to make a protein shake, when there was a loud sound followed by shaking. I started screaming and trying to close cupboards, while my husband yelled at me from the other room to get out of the kitchen. 2 of our 3 children where in the basement. Fear overcame me and I went into fight or flight. Once I knew my family was okay, we started checking on others and helping where we could. The more I help others they less anxious I felt.

We had just had a 5.7 Earthquake with the epicenter 2 miles from our home in Magna. It was the largest earthquake I had experienced. My husband and oldest daughter had to go into work, as our two youngest and I stayed home. It was a day filled with aftershocks and uneasiness. 

 

Quake Utah March to September

As I look at that day I found the timing a blessing. My family was all under one roof and we were safe. There was minimal damage to our home. 

STAY HOME STAY SAFE ordinances were put in place in our State and most of the country,causing us all to go into survival mode. My husband and daughter started working from home. Grocery Stores had empty shelves, there was a shortage of toilet paper, cleaning supplies, and more. Once again I found myself in fight or flight mode, looking forward to going back to normal in a few weeks. Once again I found it best to get lost in the service of other as a way to cope with the anxiety I was feeling. 

In April, we did a quick overnight trip to move our daughter home from college since they would not be returning to in person classes. I started realizing this was going to be our new normal.

I continued to look outward as my way of coping, but by the middle of July I started struggling. Our middle child has a rare disease so we had to be careful, but it started taking it’s toll not only on me but on the whole family. We missed doing stuff,  spending time with our friends, attending church and all the things we had taken for granted before. Serving others was no longer helping me cope, instead it became overwhelming. 

The best way to describe it is burnout. Our family and I believe the world is burnt out from the pandemic and everything else that is going on the the world. The world is filled with fear, anger, hate, and negativity. It is taking its toll on us physically and mentally. 

Recently a friend posted the following article “Your ‘Surge Capacity’ Is Depleted — It’s Why You Feel Awful” which states. In those early months, I, along with most of the rest of the country, was using “surge capacity” to operate, as Ann Masten, PhD, a psychologist and professor of child development at the University of Minnesota, calls it. Surge capacity is a collection of adaptive systems — mental and physical — that humans draw on for short-term survival in acutely stressful situations, such as natural disasters. But natural disasters occur over a short period, even if recovery is long. Pandemics are different — the disaster itself stretches out indefinitely.” It then goes on to ask “How do you adjust to an ever-changing situation where the ‘new normal’ is indefinite uncertainty?”. 

That truly is the question. How do we adapt to the ‘new normal’ when it continues to change and it is uncertain? The article that suggests the following:

I highly recommend reading the article for more information on these suggestions. And I want to add a few of my own:

Focus on self-care

When we fly the flight attendant tells us in the event of an emergency place your mask on first and then assist others. I have come to realize because I was focusing on others first I ran out of steam. If I take care of myself first with proper rest, nutrition, exercise, and fun, I have more to give others. When my reserves got low, I burnt out.

Focus on gratitude

Find 3 or more things each day you are grateful for and write them down. As you reflect on what you have rather than what you don’t it help shift your energy. 

Focus on what you are learning

By writing down something you learn during the day, you will see progress rather than feeling stuck or stagnant. 

Focus on the positive

Turn off the news, walk away from social media. Look for the good in people. Spread cheer, kindness, and love. When you can maintain social distance keep your mask off so you can smile at people. 

Focus on making a difference

It’s all about finding ways to make a difference at home, in the community, and in the world. A couple of my friends and I have decided to focus on pursuing good for the next year. We have chosen the following themes and #’s:

  • September #PursueKindness – Random acts of kindness
  • October #PursueFun – Creating fun, sharing fun, doing what is fun
  • November #PursueGratitude – Showing and Sharing gratitude
  • December #PursueConnection – Finding ways to stay connected or reconnect
  • January #PursueWellness – Physical and Mental health and well-being 
  • February #PursueLove – Show and Share love
  • March #PursueMe – All about self-care

Focus on being

We burnout because we are so busy doing, that we forget who and what we are. We are human beings, not human doings, so take time to be still, be quite, be patient, be happy, be kind, be loving, etc.  

Know that you are not alone in this fight, flight, and burnout. We are all experiencing the shift in the world together. We don’t know what to do, or when it is going to end, but we can take better care of ourselves and then help others.

Resources:

U of U Seismograph Stations
Your ‘Surge Capacity’ Is Depleted — It’s Why You Feel Awful

Back to School Basics????
Essential Oils, Health

Back to School Basics???

School is not just about academics, it is important for social health and emotional health. Virtual Illusion: Comparing Student Achievement and Teacher and Classroom Characteristics in Online and Brick-and-Mortar Charter Schools states, “Social interaction among children in grades K-12 is important not only for emotional wellbeing, but also for children’s language, communication, social, and interpersonal skills.” As we abruptly went to distant learning at the end of last year I saw the toll it took on all of my children from my youngest in Elementary School to my oldest at college. 

Back to School Basics????

As we start this school year it looks nothing like the last 13 years of sending my children to school. Whatever going back to school looks like for you and your children I honor your choice. If your anything like me it was not an easy decisions. I am still questioning some of the decisions we have made as a family.  

Our School District is schooled to return on August 24th and there are still many unknowns. I have not purchase any school supplies because we have not received any supply list. Most of the School Districts, Schools and Teacher have been focusing most of their time on following CDC guidelines and creating school safety plans than preparing to teach. 

As a parent I am choosing to focus what I can do to prepare my children to go back to school. I am preparing them with the tools to support their immune system. This starts with healthy eating, proper supplementation  including doTERRA On Guard+ Softgels,  exercise, as well as proper rest and stress management. It also includes removing toxins from our home by using natural cleaning and hygiene products. And last but most important is washing our hands or sanitizing has because more routine to better support our immune system. 

I am also preparing my children with the tools to support their emotional health. It also starts with healthy physical habits just like our immune system. Having daily discussions one on one and as a family about emotions and events of the day is very beneficial. Essential Oils are key in our home for emotional support and we use the book Essential Emotions to help us determine the best oil to support the emotion. doTerra’s website also has great resource emotional support including: Creating Love & Connection, Calming Anxious Feelings, and Lifting Discouragement.

Back to School is not basic this year! May your family stay healthy physically and emotionally. 

 

Resources:

doTerra

Fitzpatrick, B. R., Berends, M., Ferrare, J. J., & Waddington, R. J. (2020). Virtual Illusion: Comparing Student Achievement and Teacher and Classroom Characteristics in Online and Brick-and-Mortar Charter SchoolsEducational Researcher49(3), 161–175.

CDC: Preparing K-12 School Administrators for a Safe Return to School in Fall 2020

Recalculating
Making a Difference, Self-Discovery

Recalculating: This was not the destination I had planned.

In September of 2018, I started writing a book. As all too often in my life, my fears and insecurities set in and I set the book aside. With the crazy events of 2020, I am once again be directed to create a community to support others. I am excited for this journey and the people who are choosing to begin this adventure with me. So, with that I am setting my fears aside, and I am going to share what I believe is the first chapter of my book and the beginning of the next step in my life. 

In August of 2018 as I was driving in an unfamiliar city with a navigation app giving direction, I started thinking the navigation system was broken. “In 500 hundred feet turn left.” At the only possible left turn I turn left only to hear, “Recalculating, in 300 feet, make a U turn”. WHAT????? We make a U turn to then be direct to make a right turn in 300 feet. We headed back were we came from. There were several more questionable times on the trip where the navigation took us behind shopping centers, through neighborhoods, and recalculated that got me thinking something was wrong. Then I realized that this navigation system seems to be the theme of my life; RECALCULATING.

There have been several times in the last eight years that I have felt I should write a book, only to recalculate what I was thinking.  Most of the reevaluating came in the form of self-talk, “What are you thinking? You are a hot mess, you have nothing to offer. How are you going to help anyone when you can’t help yourself? You are dyslexic, how are you going to write a book that anyone would read?” Even as I am typing, my self-talk is having a field day trying to get the doubt and destruction that so often rule my thoughts and actions to take over. Well not this time! YOU ARE NOT IT, I AM IN CONTROL. I am choosing to take the wheel and see where this trip takes me, broken navigation system and all.

I am in my 40s and the life I have lived so far is not what I thought it would be. I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. I am still on the road of self-discovery and healing. I am still trying to figure out who I am. I am a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, co-worker, etc., but those are just labels, they don’t really feel like they are who I am. Will I ever know who I am? I sure hope so, or at the very least, I hope I can learn to find joy in the journey, because let me tell you my life has been full of ups and downs. I have found joy along the way, but I have also battled depression, anxiety, and abuse. Not just Domestic Violence, which included verbal, physical, and sexual abuse, but also body shaming, bullying, and verbal abuse from family, friends, and acquaintances as a child and an adult. I have done more than my fair share of self-abuse. So, my life has been full of detours, delays, and recalculating.

Maybe at the end of the book I should give you a timeline as a point of reference since this book is going to jump all over the place. It may be easier to write chronologically for me, but this is not an autobiography. I am sure for you it will be more enjoyable written by the segments of my life. I am hoping you will be able to relate to it.

My intention for this book is to let you know you are not alone. I want to open a conversation about things that are hard to talk about and create a community people who looking for balance, health, and healing from abuse, chemical imbalance, suicide, eating disorders, depression, and more who want to find joy in the journey. We are all on the planet trying to figure out this life, who we are and what our destination is.

Please remember everyone has his or her own journey. Our experiences may be similar, but they are each unique. Even though many people could have been at the same event, each person experiences and remembers those events through their own eyes and will recall the event differently. I am writing from my perspective of my life. How the events showed up for me as I reflect back on them. I am a daughter, sister, wife, mother, friend, Essential Oil Coach, Emotion Code Practitioner, and Entrepreneur. I am not a Doctor, Counselor or Therapist. I believe it is important to work with Doctors, Counselors and Therapists along with Essential Oils, Energy Healing and spirituality to find health, healing, and joy.

Retreat Lazer Tag
Making a Difference, Self-Discovery

Oh The Places We’ve Been, Now on to What is Possible

August 9th of 2002 changed my life forever with one small gift, a Signing Time Video.

Original Signing Time VHS

I join the email list, then attended a playgroup where I told Emily Brown I should just sale the Video for them. I sold them out of the back of my car to anyone who wanted to learn more about why I was signing with my toddler. At the time there was only one VHS. I filmed for a commercial that never ran, but feel even more in love with one mother’s mission to help others communicate with her child.

I started participating in weekly chats where I met the most amazing people. There was a group of us that started volunteering for outreach events and became close friends. So close we even got together a few times for a weekend retreat.

In June of 2005 I became an employee of Two Little Hands Productions. Now 15 years later, today is my last day as an employee of Azevedo Studios/Two Little Hands Productions. It has been more than just a job, it has become family. It has been an opportunity of growth and personal development.

Over the last 15 years I have worked with many amazing people. I have attended many outreach events and meeting amazing Signing Time Families. I help start and run the Signing Time Academy meeting many incredible Instructors who have become dear friends. I ran my first half marathon as part of team “Strong Enough”. I have assisted at many concerts and the Saturday’s Warrior Movie Premier.

So as I sit here looking at pictures from the last 18 years of my time with Two Little Hands Productions. I am grateful for all the memories, the friendships, and the love. It is with tears of joy that I move on to the next chapter of my life.

I will continue to share the benefits of signing. I will continue to share Signing Time, so if you have are not familiar with Two Little Hands Productions you can get a 14-day FREE trial to My Signing Time Digital Products by clicking here.

Now on to what is possible

Monday, June 15, 2020, I will be running my own business as an Emotion Code Practitioner, Essential Oil Coach, AromaDance Instructor, Mindful Movement Instructor, Food Blogger, and doTerra Wellness Advocate. In other words, I will be creating my own future doing what I love most which is severing others. The biggest thing I have learn in my last 15 years is that one person can make a difference in the world if they just take the first step.

Thank you for the memories!