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Why Resolutions Don’t Work — And What Actually Does

Every year, resolutions promise transformation. Eat better. Move more. Be more disciplined. And every year, many of those promises quietly dissolve, often replaced with guilt, frustration, and the belief that something is wrong with you.

But science tells a different story.

Resolutions don’t fail because people lack motivation or willpower. They fail because they are built on systems that ignore how the human body, brain, and nervous system actually create lasting change.

This is your permission slip to stop forcing yourself into frameworks that were never designed for your body, your strengths, or your life — and instead choose approaches that honor how change truly works.


The Resolution Myth

Traditional resolutions rely on rigid goals, arbitrary start dates, and outcome-focused expectations. While the idea of a “fresh start” can temporarily boost motivation, research shows that temporal landmarks alone do not sustain long-term behavior change without supportive structures embedded into daily life (Kooij et al., 2015).

Many resolutions are also vague (“be healthier”) or overly ambitious, leaving no clear path for action. When setbacks occur — as they inevitably do — people often interpret them as personal failure rather than part of the learning process. This mindset increases stress and disengagement, making consistency less likely.


Why Willpower Isn’t the Answer

Sustainable change is not a function of force. It is a function of conditions.

Behavioral science consistently shows that habits stick when they are:

  • Small and repeatable
  • Anchored to existing routines
  • Supported by emotional regulation and internal motivation

When stress levels are high, the brain prioritizes survival over growth. Under these conditions, willpower is unreliable. This is why systems rooted in guilt and pressure tend to collapse — they activate stress responses rather than support learning and adaptation.


Mindset, Self-Talk, and the Body: What the Science Shows

Research in mind-body medicine demonstrates that cognitive and emotional states meaningfully influence the physiological environments in which healing and change occur. Harvard Health Publishing has documented that the brain and immune system communicate bidirectionally, meaning thoughts, emotions, and stress perception can influence immune signaling, inflammation, and recovery processes (Harvard Health Publishing, n.d.).

Expanding on this connection, Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer’s work on mindfulness and perception has shown that psychological framing can measurably affect physical outcomes. In controlled research, altered perceptions of time significantly influenced the rate of physical healing, including bruise recovery, underscoring the role of awareness and expectation in bodily processes (Aungle & Langer, 2023).

Further supporting this, contemporary reviews of self-talk research demonstrate that intentional internal dialogue improves emotional regulation, stress resilience, and behavioral consistency — all factors that indirectly but powerfully support physical wellbeing by shaping nervous system responses and health-related behaviors (Brinthaupt & Morin, 2023).

Taken together, this evidence reframes change entirely: sustainable transformation does not emerge from self-criticism or force, but from cultivating internal conditions — safety, supportive self-talk, and reduced stress — that allow the body to function as designed.


Foundational Wellness Over Forced Change

Rather than resolutions that demand perfection, research supports foundational practices that build resilience and capacity over time:

  • Consistent sleep and recovery
  • Nourishment that stabilizes energy and mood
  • Gentle, repeatable movement
  • Emotional regulation and stress support

When these foundations are in place, behavior change becomes less about discipline and more about momentum.


Movement That Feels Good Actually Lasts

Movement is often positioned as punishment for not being “enough.” Science tells a different story.

Positive emotional responses to movement are among the strongest predictors of long-term adherence. Meta-analytic research shows that when physical activity is experienced as enjoyable rather than aversive, individuals are significantly more likely to sustain it over time (Rhodes et al., 2021). Moderate, self-selected activities — such as walking, gentle strength training, or mindful movement — consistently produce more positive affect than high-intensity approaches that may feel overwhelming, particularly early on.

Additionally, environments that support autonomy, competence, and connection further enhance intrinsic motivation and enjoyment, reinforcing consistency without relying on pressure or obligation (Boiché & Sarrazin, 2013).

Simply put: consistency grows from enjoyment, not punishment.

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Supportive Tools for Sustainable Change: Essential Oils and Supportive Research

While behavior change is primarily psychological and neurological, supportive tools can meaningfully improve the internal and external environments in which habits grow. When stress is reduced and emotional regulation is supported, the body is better positioned to sustain consistent, health-supportive behaviors. Within this context, aromatherapy and essential oils have been studied for their effects on stress perception, mood regulation, sleep quality, and nervous system balance.

Stress, Mood, and Sleep Support

Randomized controlled trials have demonstrated that inhalation of specific essential oil blends can significantly reduce perceived stress and improve sleep quality — two foundational elements for recovery, emotional regulation, and sustainable behavior change. Improved sleep and reduced stress are strongly associated with better adherence to wellness routines, improved mood stability, and enhanced capacity for habit formation (Kim et al., 2017; Lee et al., 2021). These findings support the use of aromatherapy as a complementary practice to help lower physiological stress load and support restorative processes essential for long-term change.

Nervous System Effects

Scoping reviews of essential oil research indicate measurable effects on emotional modulation, anxiety reduction, stress regulation, sleep quality, and mental fatigue. These effects are believed to occur primarily through olfactory and respiratory pathways that influence limbic system activity and neurochemical signaling involved in emotional and autonomic regulation (de Rapper et al., 2023). By supporting nervous system balance, aromatherapy may reduce friction around daily wellness behaviors and improve consistency without relying on force or willpower.

AromaTouch® Technique Research

Pilot trials examining structured essential oil application procedures, such as the AromaTouch® Technique, have demonstrated enhanced relaxation responses and reductions in biomarkers associated with stress and inflammation when compared to control touch procedures (Bennett et al., 2017). These findings suggest that intentional, rhythmic application of essential oils combined with touch may further support parasympathetic activation, contributing to improved recovery and emotional regulation.

Importantly, evidence consistently supports essential oils as supportive tools, not drivers, of personal transformation. They assist the environment of change — reducing stress, supporting emotional balance, and improving recovery — rather than acting as the cause of behavioral or psychological change. When used alongside aligned mindset work, movement that feels good, and foundational wellness practices, essential oils can help make sustainable change feel more accessible and embodied.


A New Way Forward

This is not about lowering standards. It is about raising self-respect.

When you stop forcing yourself into systems that rely on guilt and willpower, and instead build change around how your body and brain actually work, something shifts.

Change becomes kinder.
More realistic.
And far more sustainable.


References (APA 7)

AromaTouch® technique trial:
Author(s). (Year). Immediate and lasting effects of the dōTERRA AromaTouch Technique on autonomic function and biomarkers: A pilot trial. Journal of Integrative Medicine and Therapy. avensonline.org

Aungle, P., & Langer, E. J. (2023). Physical healing as a function of perceived time. Scientific Reports, 13, Article 18454. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-023-45393-2

Behavior change and motivation theory:
Alberts, L., Lyngs, U., & Lukoff, K. (2024). Designing for sustained motivation: A review of Self-Determination Theory in behaviour change technologies. arXiv. arXiv

Boiché, J., & Sarrazin, P. (2013). Peers’ influence on exercise enjoyment: A self-determination theory approach. Psychology of Sport and Exercise, 14(4), 461–468. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24150130/

Brinthaupt, T. M., & Morin, A. (2023). Self-talk: Research challenges and opportunities. Frontiers in Psychology, 14, 1210960. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1210960

Essential oil nervous system effects scoping review:
de Rapper, S., et al. (Year). The effects of essential oils on the nervous system: A scoping review. PubMed summary. PubMed

Harvard Health Publishing. (n.d.). Can our brain talk to our immune system? Harvard Medical School. https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/can-our-brain-talk-to-our-immune-system

Kooij, A., et al. (2015). Temporal landmarks and aspirational behavior. Management Science, 61(11), 2695–2714.

Lee, J. A., et al. (2021). Effect of aromatherapy on sleep quality of adults and elderly people: A systematic literature review and meta-analysis. Complementary Therapies in Medicine, 60, 102739. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.ctim.2021.102739

Resolution success longitudinal data:
University research summary. (2025). New Year’s resolution adherence statistics. UNSW Newsroom. UNSW Sites

Rhodes, R. E., et al. (2021). Affective and enjoyment responses to physical activity: A meta-analysis. Health Psychology Review, 15(2), 167–186. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34112041/

Studies on inhalation aromatherapy effects on stress, sleep quality, and mood:
Kim, H. J., et al. (2017). The effects of aromatherapy essential oil inhalation on stress, sleep quality, and depression in healthy adults. European Journal of Integrative Medicine, 12, 79–86. ScienceDirect

Xu, J., et al. (2025). The effects of Rosa damascena aromatherapy on anxiety, stress, hemodynamics, and sleep: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Frontiers in Public Health. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/41262694/

Modern Healing With Ancient Oils
Essential Oils

Modern Healing With Ancient Oils: Bringing the Oils of the Bible Into Daily Life

How doTERRA essential oils help us nurture mind, body & spirit today

There is something sacred about opening a bottle of oil and feeling instantly connected — not just to nature, but to the very same plants God wove into Scripture thousands of years ago.

These oils aren’t only relics of the past.
They’re part of God’s original design for wellness, and today, with doTERRA’s purity and potency, we get to bring them into our homes, routines, and healing practices in ways that feel deeply supportive and beautifully aligned with modern life.

Below is your guide to the Oils of the Bible with their Scriptural roots and their modern wellness benefits — a perfect companion to your original blog.


🌿 SANDALWOOD (Aloes)

Scriptures: Numbers 24:6; Psalm 45:8; Proverbs 7:17; Song of Solomon 4:14; John 19:39

A deeply grounding, calming oil — just as meaningful today as it was in ancient worship rituals.

Modern uses:
• Enhances meditation, prayer, and mindfulness
• Smooths fine lines and supports mature or dry skin
• Promotes deep, restorative sleep
• Calms a racing mind
• Lovely in personal fragrance blends


🌿 CASSIA

Scriptures: Exodus 30:24; Ezekiel 27:19; Psalm 45:8

Warm, spicy, and comforting — Cassia brings courage, confidence, and a sense of emotional strength.

Modern uses:
• Supports healthy metabolic function
• Uplifts mood and emotional warmth
• Wonderful for non-toxic home cleaning sprays
• Adds warmth to diffuser blends
• Supports digestion and overall wellness


🌿 CEDARWOOD

Scriptures: Leviticus 14; Numbers 19

Symbolic of protection and stability — Cedarwood feels like an instant grounding embrace.

Modern uses:
• Deep relaxation and bedtime support
• Helps quiet mental chatter
• Encourages emotional safety and groundedness
• Supports healthy hair and scalp
• Natural insect-repelling aroma


🌿 CYPRESS

Scriptures: Genesis 6:14; Isaiah 41:19; 44:14; 1 Kings 9:11; Song of Solomon 1:17

Cypress embodies movement, flow, and renewal — a beautiful companion for both physical and emotional transitions.

Modern uses:
• Supports healthy circulation
• Helps with leg fatigue or heaviness
• Encourages emotional release
• Supports lymphatic flow
• Lovely for breathwork and grounding practices


🌿 FRANKINCENSE

Scriptures: Multiple references throughout OT & NT; Matthew 2:11

Often called the “king of oils,” Frankincense remains one of the most versatile wellness tools available today.

Modern uses:
• Supports healthy cellular function
• Calms anxious feelings and overthinking
• Enhances meditation, prayer, and focus
• Nourishes and brightens skin
• Encourages emotional balance
• Supports immunity and overall wellness


🌿 MYRRH

Scriptures: Genesis 37:25; Esther 2:12; Song of Solomon; Matthew 2:11; John 19:39

An oil of comfort, grounding, and emotional steadiness — especially helpful in times of stress or transition.

Modern uses:
• Deep hydration for dry or irritated skin
• Supports healthy gums and oral care
• Calms emotional overwhelm
• Supports postpartum recovery and feminine wellness
• Centers the heart for prayer or journaling


🌿 SPIKENARD (NARD)

Scriptures: Song of Solomon; Matthew 26; Mark 14; John 12

A deeply soothing, earthy oil known for encouraging rest — emotionally and physically.

Modern uses:
• Supports relaxation and emotional release
• Promotes deeper rest and nighttime unwinding
• Calms the nervous system
• Gentle for skincare when blended properly
• Supports quiet reflection and peace


🌿 LAVENDER

(Possibly the “nard” mentioned in Scripture)

Scriptural references are debated, but many scholars connect Lavender to the traditions surrounding anointing and purification.

Modern uses:
• Calms anxious thoughts
• Supports peaceful sleep
• Soothes skin irritations
• Helps with head tension
• Gently supports digestion
• A foundational oil for emotional balance


💧 A Few Beautiful Ways to Use These Oils Together Today

🌟 For Stress & Nervous System Reset

Frankincense + Cedarwood + Lavender
Diffuse or apply diluted to pulse points.

🌟 For Grounding During Devotional Time

Sandalwood + Myrrh + Cypress
Place over the heart or back of the neck.

🌟 For Peaceful, Restful Sleep

Cedarwood + Lavender + Spikenard
Diffuse 30 minutes before bed.

🌟 For Glowing, Healthy Skin

Frankincense + Myrrh
Dilute and apply to face, neck, or hands.

🌟 For Warmth, Confidence & Encouragement

Cassia + Wild Orange
Diffuse to uplift mood and create a cozy atmosphere.


🌿 A Final Word: Scripture’s Oils, Today’s Support

These oils connect us to Scripture…
but they also support us right now — in our modern stress, modern pace, modern emotions, and modern bodies.

Every time you uncap one of these ancient-aroma bottles, may you be reminded:

✨ God’s healing is timeless.
✨ His design is intentional.
✨ And He still uses creation to comfort, restore, and renew us today.


Learn more about Oils of The Bible: God’s Ancient Gifts for Our Modern Lives from Ronai at https://ronaibrumett.com/post/oils-of-the-bible

Essential Oils, Self-Discovery

Gratitude: The Practice That Turns Ordinary Days Into Extraordinary Ones

There’s something magical that happens when you pause—just for a moment—and breathe in gratitude. The world doesn’t change instantly… but you do. The edges soften. The noise quiets. Your heart opens just a little wider. And suddenly, the ordinary becomes extraordinary.

When you pair this daily practice with the gentle support of doTERRA’s pure tested-grade essential oils, that magic becomes even more tangible. Aromatic molecules meet mindful intention, and together they create openings for joy, peace, clarity, and presence.

This month, I’ve been leaning deeply into this pairing—gratitude + aroma—and I’m excited to share these simple, soul-nourishing practices with you.


Why Gratitude + Aroma Work So Beautifully Together

Gratitude anchors you. Essential oils activate your senses. Together, they shift your emotional state in seconds. While journaling or speaking gratitude aloud engages the mind, aromatic blending communicates directly with the limbic system—your emotional command center—helping the heart and body catch up with what your mind already knows:

There is beauty here.
There is blessing here.
There is enough.
You are enough.


Aromatic Companions for a Grateful Heart

Below are some of my favorite doTERRA blends and single oils for building or deepening your gratitude practice—each one supporting the heart, mind, and breath in a different, beautiful way.


✨ Citrus Bliss® — The Joy Igniter

There’s a reason we instinctively smile when we smell citrus. Citrus Bliss blends wild orange, lemon, grapefruit, mandarin, bergamot, tangerine, and vanilla—inviting a burst of sunshine into your day.

Use it when:
You want to feel brighter, lighter, or inspired. Add a drop to your palms, inhale deeply, and speak three things you’re grateful for aloud.

Why:
Citrus oils have uplifting and energizing aromatic properties that support emotional rejuvenation and promote positive feelings (doTERRA, 2023a).


✨ Balance® — The Grounding Blend

Balance feels like stepping onto soft earth after a long day. Spruce, frankincense, blue tansy, ho wood, and osmanthus work together to create a calming, steadying aroma.

Use it when:
Your mind is racing, your emotions feel scattered, or you want to reconnect with the present moment.

Why:
Tree oils contain grounding aromatic constituents that can help the mind and body experience greater calm and stability (doTERRA, 2023b).


✨ Frankincense — The Heart Opener

Frankincense has long been known as the “oil of truth,” and for good reason. Its rich, resinous aroma encourages deeper breathing and a fuller sense of connection—both inward and upward.

Use it when:
You’re journaling, reflecting, praying, or giving thanks for something tender or powerful.

Why:
Frankincense’s centering and focusing aromatic compounds support emotional balance and deeper reflection (Buckle, 2015).


✨ Spikenard — The Deep-Rooted Stillness Oil

Spikenard carries an ancient, grounding aroma—earthy, warm, and quietly powerful. It invites you to slow everything down and listen beneath the noise.

Use it when:
You crave deeper stillness, spiritual grounding, or a moment to reconnect with your inner wisdom.

Why:
Spikenard’s soothing aromatic profile is traditionally used to promote relaxation, calm, and emotional centering (doTERRA, 2023c).


✨ Helichrysum — The Emotional Renewal Oil

Known as the “Everlasting” or “Immortelle” flower, Helichrysum encourages emotional resilience. It’s gentle, comforting, and incredibly supportive when gratitude feels just out of reach.

Use it when:
You’re healing, releasing emotional patterns, or wanting a fresh, hopeful mindset.

Why:
Helichrysum’s aromatic compounds have long been associated with renewal, comfort, and emotional support (doTERRA, 2023d).


✨ Lime — The Bright-Hearted Encourager

Lime’s vibrant, lively aroma brings clarity and forward motion. It’s perfect for mornings or moments when you want to cultivate optimism.

Use it when:
You’re setting intentions, starting your day, or need a little spark of energy.

Why:
Citrus oils like lime offer uplifting and energizing aromatic benefits that help cultivate positive emotional states (doTERRA, 2023e).


✨ Beautiful® Body Mist — The Worthiness Whisper

With Bergamot, Lime, Frankincense, and Osmanthus, Beautiful® is the blend that reminds you of your own inner light. The body mist turns gratitude into a whole-body, sensory experience.

Use it when:
You want to feel grounded in your body, uplifted in your mindset, or wrapped in a moment of self-worth.

Why:
Beautiful® was crafted to evoke feelings of radiance, courage, and self-compassion, promoting emotional wellbeing through its bright yet grounding aromatic blend (doTERRA, 2023f).


✨ Harvest Spice® — The Cozy Gratitude Blend

Warm, nostalgic, and deeply comforting, Harvest Spice® brings feelings of connection and belonging. It’s gratitude in aromatic form.

Use it when:
You’re cultivating family connection, celebrating blessings, or creating a cozy environment for reflection.

Why:
Spice oils have warming and uplifting qualities that promote comfort, joy, and togetherness (doTERRA, 2023g).


✨ Wild Orange — The Spark of Joy

Wild Orange is the essence of optimism. Its sweet, bright aroma makes gratitude feel effortless.

Use it when:
You want to amplify joy, reset your mood, or add brightness to your gratitude journal or diffuser practice.

Why:
Wild Orange’s energizing and mood-enhancing aromatic compounds inspire feelings of joy, creativity, and positivity (doTERRA, 2023h).


Gratitude Diffuser Blends

If you want to elevate your gratitude practice even more, consider creating a gratitude “atmosphere” in your home or workspace. Diffusing blends with citrus, woods, spices, and resins can shift your emotional state before you ever pick up a pen or whisper a thank-you. These aromas bring warmth, expansion, and presence into the air around you—making gratitude feel more natural, accessible, and embodied.


A Simple Daily Gratitude Ritual

Try this practice for a week and notice the shift:

  1. Choose your oil. Pick the one your heart needs today: Joy, grounding, stillness, renewal, or brightness.
  2. Breathe it in. One deep inhale with your hand over your heart.
  3. Speak or write one thing you’re grateful for today.
  4. Close with a grounding exhale.
  5. Carry the aroma—and the gratitude—with you.

Five steps. One minute. A completely different day.


When Ordinary Becomes Extraordinary

Here’s what I’ve learned after years of helping others reconnect with themselves:

Gratitude doesn’t ignore the hard things.
It simply helps you remember the good things, too.

And essential oils don’t fix your life.
But they can shift your energy, soften your breath, and help your heart receive what your mind already knows:

There is still wonder.
There is still goodness.
There is still so much to be grateful for.

Whether you’re, starting a journal practice, a pro at gratitude, or simply pausing to appreciate what’s right in front of you, know this:

Every single breath of gratitude opens the door to an extraordinary life.
One moment… one aroma… one blessing at a time.


References (APA 7)

Buckle, J. (2015). Clinical aromatherapy: Essential oils in healthcare (3rd ed.). Elsevier.

doTERRA. (2023a). Citrus Bliss® essential oil blend. https://www.doterra.com
doTERRA. (2023b). Balance® grounding blend. https://www.doterra.com
doTERRA. (2023c). Spikenard essential oil. https://www.doterra.com
doTERRA. (2023d). Helichrysum essential oil. https://www.doterra.com
doTERRA. (2023e). Lime essential oil. https://www.doterra.com
doTERRA. (2023f). Beautiful® body mist. https://www.doterra.com
doTERRA. (2023g). Harvest Spice® essential oil blend. https://www.doterra.com
doTERRA. (2023h). Wild Orange essential oil. https://www.doterra.com

Words Matter: Challenging the Old Adage
Family Life Education

Words Matter: Challenging the Old Adage

We’ve all heard the childhood rhyme:

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

It sounds reassuring. But peer-reviewed science strongly contradicts it. Verbal and emotional abuse — even without physical violence — can leave deep, lasting wounds (Teicher et al., 2006; Bellis et al., 2025). Childhood verbal aggression has been linked to anxiety, depression, and long-term difficulties with emotional regulation and relationships (Vissing et al., 2008; Wright et al., 2009). Some studies even show that repeated exposure to verbal abuse can alter brain structures involved in emotional processing (Teicher et al., 2010).

I was teased a lot as a child — about my size, my lack of ability to read, being a tomboy, and more. This led me to downplay teasing while dating and in my first marriage. Over time, the teasing escalated into verbal abuse from my ex-husband. Many of those words still appear in my mind from time to time. I have spent years healing and breaking patterns of teasing, and I believe in facing truth with compassion and using it as a catalyst for growth. And the truth is this: if words can harm so deeply, then they can also heal deeply — when used with intention, understanding, and care (Zhu et al., 2025; Shorey et al., 2022).


Understanding the Impact of Words

Words are not harmless. Emotional and verbal abuse are linked to long-term psychological challenges, including anxiety, depression, and diminished resilience (Carleton, 2023; Zhang et al., 2022). Even without physical violence, verbal abuse in families predicts higher rates of depressive symptoms in children and adolescents (López-Morales et al., 2025; Zvara et al., 2019).

Research also shows that verbal aggression can impact the brain in ways similar to physical abuse, particularly in areas responsible for emotional regulation (Teicher et al., 2010). These findings make it clear that the old rhyme is misleading: words can indeed leave deep, lasting scars.

Words are not harmless. Emotional and verbal abuse are linked to long-term psychological challenges, including anxiety, depression, and diminished resilience (Carleton, 2023; Zhang et al., 2022). Even without physical violence, verbal abuse in families predicts higher rates of depressive symptoms in children and adolescents (López-Morales et al., 2025; Zvara et al., 2019).

Research also shows that verbal aggression can impact the brain in ways similar to physical abuse, particularly in areas responsible for emotional regulation (Teicher et al., 2010). These findings make it clear that the old rhyme is misleading: words can indeed leave deep, lasting scars.


Words Can Cause Lasting Harm: What the Research Says

  1. Verbal Aggression in Childhood Has Big Mental Health Effects
    • A foundational study by Teicher, Samson, Polcari & McGreenery (2006) found that parental verbal aggression was associated with moderate to large psychiatric effects (depression, anxiety, anger-hostility, dissociation). IFEMDR+1
    • Notably, in their sample of 554 young adults, the effect sizes for verbal aggression were comparable to or even larger than those associated with familial physical abuse. PubMed
    • The authors concluded that verbal aggression is a potent form of maltreatmentIFEMDR+1
  2. Verbal Abuse Is Widespread — and Often Overlooked
    • systematic review of 149 quantitative studies (plus 17 qualitative) found that childhood verbal abuse (“CVA”) is a common subtype of emotional abuse. PubMed
    • This review linked CVA to many negative outcomes across the lifespan — internalizing problems (like anxiety or depression), externalizing behaviors, and more. PubMed
    • The authors argue that recognizing CVA as its own form of maltreatment is critical for prevention and intervention. PubMed
  3. Psychological Violence (Including Verbal) Impacts Mental Health Severely
    • A meta-analysis of intimate-partner violence (IPV) showed that psychological violence strongly correlates with PTSDdepression, and anxiety — sometimes as strongly as physical violence. BioMed Central
    • Specifically, emotional / verbal abuse subtypes had large effect sizes on PTSD and depression. BioMed Central
  4. Verbal Abuse Impairs Recovery in Mental Illness
    • In a study of people with serious mental illness, those who had experienced verbal abuse reported more loneliness and lower social support, which in turn hurt their recovery. PubMed
    • This suggests verbal abuse’s harm isn’t just long-term — it can also undermine one’s ability to heal and connect in the present.
  5. Psychological Abuse Can Undermine Resilience — But There’s Hope
    • A recent study (Child Indicators Research, 2025) found that adolescents exposed to psychological abuse (which includes verbal/emotional abuse) showed lower resilienceSpringerLink
    • Importantly, emotional flexibility and self-compassion mediated this relationship. In other words: adolescents who develop self-compassion and flexible emotional skills show better resilience, even in the face of psychological abuse. SpringerLink
  6. Verbal Abuse Impacts Interpersonal Behavior
    • Research in adolescents (Frontiers in Psychology) showed that childhood psychological abuse is linked to higher relational aggression (e.g., social exclusion, gossip, indirect harm), partially via mediators like cognitive distortions. Frontiers
    • This means that early verbal / emotional abuse not only affects internal well-being, but can also shape how someone relates to others later in life.

Communication as a Tool for Healing

The good news is that if words can harm, they can also heal. Supportive, intentional communication reduces conflict, fosters resilience, and improves emotional health (Bair-Merritt et al., 2020; Shorey et al., 2022).

Here are some research-backed strategies to improve your communication:

  1. Name Your Emotions – Identify emotions before responding (Shorey et al., 2022).
  2. Use “I” Statements – Express feelings without blaming others (Wright et al., 2009).
  3. Practice Reflective Listening – Validate others’ feelings to foster trust (Vissing et al., 2008).
  4. Validate Without Agreeing – Acknowledge feelings while maintaining your perspective (Shorey et al., 2022).
  5. Slow Down During Conflict – Pausing prevents emotional flooding (Teicher et al., 2006).
  6. Repair When Words Hurt – Apologize, clarify, and reset communication (Bair-Merritt et al., 2020).

📝 Healthy Communication Worksheet

Use this interactive worksheet to put these strategies into practice.


The Takeaway

Healthy communication is a skill, not a personality trait. You can learn it, practice it, and transform your relationships and life. Words have power — the power to wound, and the power to heal. Let’s choose words that heal.


References

Bair-Merritt, M. H., Black, L. M., et al. (2020). The role of social support in recovery among adults exposed to verbal abuse. Psychiatric Rehabilitation Journal, 43(3), 221–229. https://doi.org/10.1037/prj0000404

Bellis, M. A., et al. (2025). Childhood verbal abuse shows similar impact to adult mental health as physical abuse. BMJ Open.

Carleton, R. N. (2023). Childhood verbal abuse and its association with mental health across the lifespan: A systematic review. Child Abuse & Neglect, 139, 105985. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.chiabu.2023.105985

López-Morales, H., Nájera, M., García, A., & Sánchez, P. (2025). Psychological, emotional, and neuropsychological sequelae of child victims of domestic violence: A review of the literature. Journal of Child & Adolescent Trauma. https://doi.org/10.1007/s40653-025-00746-6

Shorey, R. C., et al. (2022). Psychological violence and mental health outcomes: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Systematic Reviews, 11, 1–15. https://doi.org/10.1186/s13643-022-02025-z

Storey, D. (2025). Verbal abuse is no less damaging than physical harm. Psychiatrist.com.

Teicher, M. H., Samson, J. A., Polcari, A., & McGreenery, C. E. (2006). Sticks, stones, and hurtful words: Relative effects of various forms of childhood maltreatment. American Journal of Psychiatry, 163(6), 993–1000. https://doi.org/10.1176/ajp.2006.163.6.993

Teicher, M. H., Samson, J. A., Sheu, Y.-S., Polcari, A., & McGreenery, C. E. (2010). Hurtful words: Exposure to peer verbal aggression is associated with elevated psychiatric symptom scores and corpus callosum abnormalities. American Journal of Psychiatry, 167(12), 1464–1471. https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.ajp.2010.10010030

Vissing, Y. M., Straus, M. A., Gelles, R. J., & Harrop, J. W. (2008). Verbal aggression by parents and psychosocial problems of children. Western Criminology Review, 9(1), 34–50.

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Essential Oils, Healing Journey, Health

Celebrate Without Compromise Tradition and Flavor!

Simple ways to savor the season—joyfully and comfortably

The holidays bring moments of laughter, light, and connection. Yet they can also bring a few challenges—too much sugar, a bit of stress, and that “I overdid it” feeling after another round of celebrations.

This guide is here to help you celebrate without compromise—to enjoy every flavor, every gathering, and every memory while still feeling vibrant, balanced, and at ease. Whether you joined our class or simply discovered this resource, you’ll find practical tips, essential oil support, and smart habits to help you stay energized through the entire season.


🍽️ Eat, Enjoy, and Feel Amazing

Food connects us—it’s how we gather, share, and celebrate. The goal isn’t restriction, it’s intention.

Try these simple approaches to keep your body happy while you enjoy the festivities:

  • Start with balance. Begin meals with something nourishing like protein or fiber to keep blood sugar steady.
  • Hydrate often. Add a drop of Lemon or Grapefruit essential oil to your water for a refreshing, cleansing boost.
  • Mindful indulgence. Savor every bite. Pause, breathe, and let your senses experience the joy of what’s on your plate.

You’ll also find that a few smart swaps go a long way:

  • Sparkling water + a drop of Wild Orange instead of soda or mixers.
  • Yogurt-based dips with herbs and a hint of Lemon oil instead of heavy creams.
  • Essential oil–infused dark chocolate treats instead of overly sweet desserts.

🌿 Essential Oils for Digestive and Emotional Balance

Essential oils and targeted supplements can offer powerful support for both the body and mind during the holidays. Try incorporating these into your daily routine to help keep energy and digestion on track:

  • DigestZen®: Roll on the abdomen after large meals or add a drop to water to support digestion and comfort.
  • Peppermint: Breathe deeply before gatherings for a clear, refreshed mind—or take internally for digestive support.
  • Lemon: Brightens mood and supports natural cleansing pathways.
  • Citrus Bliss® or Holiday Joy®: Diffuse for an instant mood lift and festive atmosphere.

And for extra metabolic and digestive balance this season, explore these powerful additions from doTERRA’s MetaPWR™ System and TerraZyme:

  • MetaPWR Assist:
    This innovative supplement supports healthy glucose metabolism and helps promote balanced energy throughout the day. Taken with your largest meal, it helps moderate post-meal glucose spikes—perfect for keeping your energy and focus steady through holiday feasts and festivities.
  • MetaPWR Softgels:
    A convenient way to experience the benefits of the MetaPWR Metabolic Blend, these softgels help curb cravings, support metabolic health, and assist in maintaining a healthy weight. They’re an easy addition to your daily routine to help you feel your best—no matter what’s on the menu.
  • doTERRA TerraZyme is safe and effective and can be taken with every meal. It includes the doTERRA tummy tamer blend of peppermint, ginger, and caraway seed extracts to promote gastrointestinal comfort. The tummy tamer blend is especially helpful for those needing targeted digestive health, such as with protein, fat, and carbohydrate intolerances (like lactose).*

Together, these natural tools work in harmony to support both digestive comfort and emotional well-being, so you can enjoy every moment without compromise.


✨ Stay Energized and Grounded

The key to thriving through the holidays is balance—supporting your energy without burning out. Here are a few small habits that make a big difference:

  • Morning reset: Begin your day with warm water and a drop of Lemon essential oil. Roll Balance® on your feet and the back of your neck to not only ground but support emotional balance.
  • Move gently: Take a short walk or stretch after meals to support digestion and energy flow.
  • Rest intentionally: Diffuse Adaptiv® or Shinrin-Yoku in the evening to unwind and promote restful sleep.
  • Breathe deeply: A few slow, intentional breaths with your favorite calming oil can bring you back to the present moment anytime.

💃 Move to Support Digestion

Movement is one of the most natural ways to support digestion, balance blood sugar, and lift your mood—especially after those rich holiday meals. You don’t need a full workout to make a difference; even small, intentional movement helps your body process and use nutrients more effectively.

Try incorporating some of these gentle movement practices throughout your day:

  • Walk it out: A 10–15 minute walk after meals encourages healthy digestion and helps regulate blood sugar.
  • Twist and stretch: Gentle yoga twists or standing side bends can stimulate digestive organs and ease bloating.
  • Dance in the kitchen: Turn on your favorite playlist and move with joy while cooking or cleaning up—it’s good for body and soul!
  • Breathe and sway: Slow, mindful breathing with light movement keeps energy flowing and tension low.

Pair your movement with essential oils like Deep Blue® for soothing muscles or Motivate® for an energizing boost.
When your body moves, your energy flows—and that flow supports both digestion and emotional balance.


💛 Celebrate the Moments That Matter

Remember—the holidays aren’t about perfection, they’re about presence. When you care for your body and emotions, you create more space for genuine connection, laughter, and gratitude.

Let this season be one of joy, nourishment, and mindful celebration. With small, intentional choices, you can truly celebrate without compromise.


🥂 Continue the Celebration

Before you dive into the recipes below, consider how essential oils and supplements can naturally complement your meals.

  • Enjoy your MetaPWR Assist capsule with your main course to help support balanced energy and digestion.
  • Add a drop of Lemon, Wild Orange, or Peppermint essential oil to your water, mocktails, or treats for bright, natural flavor.
  • Keep DigestZen and MetaPWR Softgels handy for gentle, daily support that keeps you feeling your best.

These small, mindful additions make a big difference—helping your body stay aligned while you enjoy every delicious moment.

Let this season be one of joy, nourishment, and mindful celebration. With small, intentional choices, you can truly celebrate without compromise.


🍽️ Recipes

doTERRA On Guard® Pumpkin Smoothie

Are you someone who goes crazy for pumpkin-flavored treats as soon as the first day of fall hits? If so, you’ll definitely want to try this essential oil recipe that combines the delectable taste of pumpkin pie with the doTERRA On Guard Protective Blend for the ultimate autumn treat. This doTERRA On Guard Pumpkin Smoothie is a simple way to get your pumpkin fix, while enjoying the immune-supporting benefits of doTERRA On Guard.*

Cinnamon Apple Chips

As you can tell, Cinnamon Bark oil is a favorite for fall essential oil recipes because of its distinct smell and taste that radiates the essence of the season. If you are looking for more ways to use Cinnamon essential oil this fall, try these Cinnamon Apple Chips with doTERRA essential oils. You’ll soon find that this sweet snack offers a guilt-free alternative to a bag of potato chips.

Glazed Spicy Sweet Potatoes

The colors and flavors of fall are in full swing with this essential oil recipe. The perfect companion for ham, turkey, stuffing, or any traditional fall foods, these potatoes offer a sweet and spicy flavor that pairs well with anything savory. Using Cinnamon Bark and Ginger oil, these Glazed Spicey Sweet Potatoes provide a hearty, filling side dish for any autumn meal that everyone at the table is sure to love.

Ingredients:

  • 4 tablespoons butter, melted
  • 4 tablespoons honey
  • Juice of 1 lime
  • 2 teaspoons ground allspice
  • 8 drops doTERRA Cinnamon Bark essential oil
  • 5 drops doTERRA Ginger essential oil
  • 2 pounds orange-fleshed sweet potatoes, peeled and cut into ½-inch thick slices Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
  • Fresh thyme sprigs for garnish (optional)

Instructions:

  1. Place ¼ cup of cream into small bowl, sprinkle with gelatin. Let stand to soften (about 10 minutes).
  2. While gelatin is softening, pour remaining cream and ½-cup sugar into a 2-quart saucepan; place over medium heat. Stir until sugar is dissolved. Pour into a large bowl.
  3. Add yogurt, softened gelatin/cream mixture, and Wild Orange oil; whisk until well blended and smooth.
  4. Divide between 8 martini or juice glasses and chill for several hours or overnight, until set.
  5. Once panna cotta is set, place ¼ cup of orange juice in small dish and sprinkle unflavored gelatin over the top.
  6. Set aside to soften for about 5 minutes.
  7. Heat remaining orange juice in a microwave safe dish until it begins to simmer, about 45–60 seconds.
  8. Scrape softened gelatin mixture into hot orange juice and stir until gelatin is dissolved. Set aside to cool at room temperature; divide between each of the panna cotta glasses to create an even layer on top.
  9. Refrigerate until orange gelee is set.

Roasted Butternut Squash Soup

Take advantage of fall produce with this delicious soup. Filled with vegetables and rich seasoning from Rosemary, Spanish Sage, and Black Pepper essential oils, you’ll not only love the taste, but the smell it brings into your home too.

Ingredients:

  • 3-pound butternut squash
  • Olive oil 1 large yellow onion
  • 1 large carrot
  • 1 teaspoon minced garlic
  • 1 tablespoon maple syrup
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • Rosemary essential oil
  • Ginger essential oil
  • Spanish Sage essential oil
  • Black Pepper essential oil
  • 4 cups vegetable broth
  • ½ cup heavy cream
  • Garnish: Sour cream and roasted squash seeds

Instructions:

  1. Preheat the oven to 400°F.
  2. Slice the squash in half lengthwise and remove its seeds and membrane.
  3. Place the squash on a baking dish—cut side facing up—brush with olive oil, sprinkle with salt, and roast for 30 minutes.
  4. Remove the outer layers of the onion and quarter. Clean and rough chop the carrot, setting aside.
  5. After the squash has roasted, brush the onion and carrot with olive oil and place in the baking dish with the squash. Continue cooking for 20 minutes. (If the squash needs to be cooked more, remove the onion and carrot and return the squash into the oven until tender. Take out of the oven and let cool.)
  6. Scoop out the squash flesh and transfer to a blender along with the onion, carrot, and minced garlic, blending on high until smooth. Pour the mixture into a stock pot and slowly incorporate the maple syrup, vegetable broth, heavy cream, and salt. Simmer over medium heat.
  7. Add one drop of Ginger and Black Pepper essential oils.
  8. Dip two toothpicks into your bottles of Rosemary and Spanish Sage and insert the toothpicks into the soup, stirring.
  9. Add additional essential oils and salt to taste. Caution: A little essential oil goes a long way, especially with recipes. Add deliberately.
  10. Pour the soup into bowls and top with roasted squash seeds and sour cream.

Mini Pumpkin Pies

Ingredients

  • 2 cups pureed pumpkin
  • 1 large egg
  • ¼ cup egg whites
  • ½ cup milk of choice
  • 3 teaspoon melted butter or coconut oil
  • ⅓ cup brown sugar or honey
  • 2 tablespoons vanilla extract
  • ¼ teaspoon ground nutmeg
  • 2 drops Clove oil
  • 2 drops Ginger oil
  • 3 drops Cassia or Cinnamon Bark oil
  • 1 uncooked pie crust

Instructions

  1. Preheat oven to 350° F.
  2. Take pie crust and cut out circles to fit inside greased muffin tin. Don’t roll the dough out too thin or else the pie will fall apart after its cooked.
  3. In a blender or food processor, blend all ingredients until smooth.
  4. Evenly divide the pie filling into pie crust.
  5. Bake for 30–45 minutes or until crust lightly browns and when a toothpick inserted into the pies come out clean.
  6. Let sit for 10 minutes, or until cool. Gently remove from pan and refrigerate.

Tip: If you want to make a whole pie rather than mini pies, this recipe will make one medium sized pie.

Peppermint Chocolates

Submitted by: Mandi Felici, Virginia

Ingredients

1 ½ cup organic coconut oil

¼ cup raw honey

3 drops Peppermint oil

1 cup dark or semi-sweet chocolate chips

1 candy cane, crushed

Instructions

  1. Whip solid coconut oil, raw honey, and Peppermint essential oil together with hand mixer. The whipped filling should be white and fluffy when complete.
  2. Refrigerate whipped filling for about five minutes.
  3. Use a small scoop or measuring spoon to make small mounds of mint filling. Press down with spoon or finger to make a flat shape.
  4. Place each piece on sheet of parchment paper on top of cookie sheet. Return mints to freezer until ready to coat with chocolate.
  5. In small saucepan or double boiler, gently melt chocolate chips over low heat.
  6. Take mints out of freezer. Use fork to dip each piece in melted chocolate. Place on top of cooling rack.
  7. For holiday fun, sprinkle with crushed candy cane immediately after coating.
  8. Put chocolates back in freezer to cool until hardened. Serve chocolates immediately or store in refrigerator until you are ready to eat them.

Tip: Use a cool spoon to shape whipped filling to reduce sticking. 

Cinnamon Apple Cake

Enjoy this vegan apple cake with breakfast or as a dessert.  This healthy alternative to traditional sugary teacakes has a nice autumn flavor and goes well with a warm mug of apple cider. 

Ingredients

  • 1 ½ cups all purpose flour
  • 2 ½ teaspoons baking powder
  • ¾ cup raw sugar
  • ½ cup olive oil
  • ½ cup orange juice
  • ½ cup walnuts
  • 2 small apples, grated
  • 1 tablespoon ground cinnamon
  • 1 drop Cinnamon Bark oil

Instructions

  1. Preheat oven to 350° F. Lightly coat cake tin with olive oil.
  2. Juice orange in bowl and set aside.
  3. In a separate bowl, mix together flour, ground cinnamon, and baking powder. Set aside.
  4. Grate the apples. Set aside.
  5. In a large bowl, add sugar, olive oil, and Cinnamon Bark oil. Mix together using a handheld or free-standing mixer.
  6. Add the flour mix and the orange juice to a bowl with sugar and oil alternatively and keep mixing.
  7. Add the apples and the walnuts and fold in gently with a spoon until just combined.
  8. Pour the mixture into baking dish and bake for 45 minutes (or until a toothpick can be inserted and removed clean). Slice and enjoy.

Tip: The mixture will look a little dry until after the apples are added. This cake is best right out of the oven, but is good for a week.


Spiced Apple Crisp

Wild Orange Fruit Dip and OnGuard Apples

Chocolate Pumpkin Fudge

Pumpkin Butterscotch Streusel Muffins

Star Anise Wild Orange Shortbread Cookies

Easy Peppermint Bark

Chocolate Orange Cheese Ball

Gluten Free Pumpkin Cheesecake

Chocolate SuperMint Christmas Crunch 

Compound Butter with Essential Oils

Easy Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Cookies

Pumpkin Squares

Sweet Potato Casserole

Italian Bread Dip

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