Healing Journey, Making a Difference, Self-Discovery

Cultivating Gratitude in November — And Beyond

The crisp November air holds a subtle invitation: to pause, inhale deeply, and turn the gaze inward with a heartfelt “thank you.” I am grateful for those who trust me as their mentor, Essential Oil Coach, and Emotion Code, Body Code, and Belief Code Practitioner. I am thankful to those who follow me on the various platforms and hope you find value in what I share. Thank you for joining me on this journey.

As the golden leaves shift into quiet rest, so too can we shift from doing to being grateful. For many years I’ve taken this month to share one daily gratitude post on social media—and this year I’m inviting you to join me. Let’s explore why this matters: the science of gratitude, how it influences our health, and how simple daily practice can ripple into our wellbeing and community.


Why Gratitude Matters: The Research Story

Gratitude is more than a feel-good notion. In psychological science it’s defined as “the appreciation of what is valuable and meaningful to oneself; a general state of thankfulness and/or appreciation” (Wood, Joseph, Lloyd, & Atkins, 2009).

Here are several evidence-based benefits:

1. Mental & Emotional Wellbeing

  • Gratitude correlates with greater happiness, more positive emotions, and improved life satisfaction (Harvard Health, 2021).
  • A meta-analysis of 64 randomized trials found gratitude interventions led to significant improvements in mental health: fewer symptoms of anxiety (−7.8 %) and depression (−6.9 %) (Jans-Beken et al., 2022).
  • Gratitude writing specifically (vs. general expressive writing) decreased stress and negative affect in a one-month follow-up (Schanche et al., 2020).

2. Physical Health & Sleep

  • Gratitude is associated with better sleep quality, reduced fatigue, fewer physical symptoms, and improved cardiovascular markers (Harvard Health, 2024).
  • Individuals with higher dispositional gratitude report greater vitality, less anxiety, and better self-rated physical health (Hill & Roberts, 2011).

3. Brain, Body, and Neural Pathways

  • Neuroscientific work shows gratitude activates brain regions tied to reward, social bonding, and emotional regulation (Fox et al., 2015).
  • Gratitude journaling helps “rewire” the brain—shifting attention toward noticing positives and strengthening social connections (The Resilience Project, 2023).

4. Relationships & Community

  • Gratitude strengthens social ties. Expressing thanks signals that we’ve received value from someone else, fostering trust, connection, and prosocial behavior (Greater Good Science Center, 2016).
  • The ripple extends beyond the individual; by nurturing gratitude, we also nurture environments of appreciation, kindness, and resilience.

How This Matters for You — And for Us Together

As I share my daily “gratitude” posts throughout November with you, here’s what I’m inviting—and what you might discover:

  • Resilience under pressure. Life brings stress, uncertainty, pain—yet research shows gratitude buffers against anxiety, depressive symptoms, and even lowers physical complaints.
  • Foundational self-care. While we often think of self-care as what we do (exercise, essential oils, sleep routines), gratitude is what we become—an orientation, a noticing.
  • Embodied payoff. Better sleep, less fatigue, improved mood—these aren’t extras; they’re foundational to showing up fully in your life, relationships, and purpose.
  • Shared transformation. When you join the daily gratitude practice with me, we create a collective momentum—a shared shift toward noticing, naming, and appreciating the good. That communal energy amplifies the individual benefits.

How to Participate: A Simple Framework

Here’s how you can join in this year’s November gratitude journey—with flexibility built in so it fits you.

  1. Download your free Gratitude Journal. (below)
    Begin by downloading my Beyond Possibilities Gratitude Journal, designed to guide your daily reflections and deepen your awareness of what’s good in your life. It includes space for 3–10 daily gratitude entries, inspiring prompts, and weekly reflection pages. (Download link coming soon!)
  2. Choose your medium.
    Whether it’s your downloaded journal, a digital notes app, or a social-media post—pick the format you’ll stick with.
  3. Keep it manageable.
    Research suggests that recording 3 to 10 items per day tends to produce optimal benefits (more than 10 may dilute impact).
    • For example: “I’m grateful today for…” followed by 3–5 things.
    • You may also pick a theme of the day (health, connection, nature, small joys, acts of kindness).
  4. Be honest & intentional.
    Gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring challenges—it means also noticing what’s good despite them. Authenticity matters more than perfection.
    • A suggested prompt: “What happened today that I might normally overlook—and how did it matter?”
    • Another: “Who made a difference for me today—and how can I thank them?”
  5. Share the ripple.
    Post what you’re grateful for on my daily gratitude post—either on LinkedIn or Facebook.
    Join the conversation, celebrate others’ moments of gratitude, and invite friends or family to participate.
    Or share on your own social media with the hashtag #BeyondGratitude to connect our growing community of thankfulness.
  6. Reflect weekly.
    At the end of each week in November, look back—What patterns emerge? What small things became big? What surprised you? This reflective pause deepens your practice and anchors your learning.

Why This Year Feels Especially Right

Given the fullness of our lives—with our personal healing journeys, essential-oil routines, emotional body work, stress-management, and self-care practices—layering in a gratitude practice is like adding a powerful support beam under the rest of the structure. It doesn’t replace anything you’re doing; it helps everything you do work better.
Plus, once gratitude becomes a habit, its benefits persist and compound over time.


In Closing

I invite you to step into November together—each day noticing something you are grateful for, sharing it if you choose, and inviting others into the circle. Let’s watch how small moments of thanks can build into greater resilience, deeper joy, stronger relationships, and more vibrant health.

With heartfelt thanks for you—for showing up, for choosing healing, for being part of this community. Here’s to a month of gratitude, connection, and transformation.


References

Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84(2), 377–389.
Fox, G. R., Kaplan, J., Damasio, H., & Damasio, A. (2015). Neural correlates of gratitude. Frontiers in Psychology, 6(1491). https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2015.01491
Greater Good Science Center. (2016). How gratitude changes you and your brain. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_gratitude_changes_you_and_your_brain
Harvard Health. (2021). Giving thanks can make you happier. https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier
Harvard Health. (2024). Gratitude enhances health, brings happiness — and may even lengthen lives. https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/gratitude-enhances-health-brings-happiness-and-may-even-lengthen-lives-202409113071
Hill, P. L., & Roberts, B. W. (2011). Examining the pathways between gratitude and self-rated physical health. Psychology & Health, 26(9), 1057–1072. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3489271/
Jans-Beken, L., et al. (2022). The effects of gratitude interventions: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Frontiers in Psychology. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10393216/
Schanche, E., et al. (2020). A brief gratitude writing intervention decreased stress and negative affect. Frontiers in Psychology. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8867461/
The Resilience Project. (2023). Gratitude and the benefits of journaling. https://theresilienceproject.com.au/at-home/wellbeing-hub/gratitude-and-the-benefits-of-journaling/
Wood, A. M., Joseph, S., Lloyd, J., & Atkins, S. (2009). Gratitude influences sleep through the mechanism of pre-sleep cognitions. Journal of Psychosomatic Research, 66(1), 43-48.

Self-Discovery

The Science of Setting Achievable Goals: 5 Steps to Success

Setting goals isn’t just about writing a list—it’s about aligning your vision, emotions, and daily actions in a way that makes success possible. Research shows that people who set clear, structured goals are far more likely to achieve them (Locke & Latham, 2002). But goals are not only mental exercises—they are also deeply emotional and spiritual journeys. Inviting God into the process through prayer and trust transforms goals from “tasks to accomplish” into opportunities for growth and grace.

Why Positive Feelings Matter in Goal Achievement

Studies in psychology show that positive emotions broaden attention, increase motivation, and build resilience (Fredrickson, 2001). When you feel good about your progress—even small wins—your brain releases dopamine, reinforcing the behavior and encouraging you to keep going (Kringelbach & Berridge, 2016).

One powerful way to strengthen positive emotions is through gratitude. Thank God for every step you take toward your goal, no matter how small. Gratitude isn’t only about what you’ve already received—it’s about appreciating the journey as you walk it.

Another key practice is to visualize what achieving your goal will feel like. Imagine the peace, joy, or confidence you’ll have when you reach it. Studies show that vividly describing these positive feelings increases persistence and success (Pham & Taylor, 1999). Combining gratitude with visualization keeps your spirit lifted and focused.

SMART Goals: The Key to Clarity

One of the most effective frameworks for goal-setting is the SMART model:

  • Specific – A clear, well-defined goal (e.g., “Walk 30 minutes, 5 days a week” vs. “Exercise more”).
  • Measurable – A way to track progress (time, frequency, or other metrics).
  • Achievable – Realistic given your current resources and lifestyle.
  • Relevant – Aligned with your values, faith, and long-term objectives.
  • Time-bound – A deadline or timeline to create urgency and accountability.

Research confirms that specific and measurable goals are more likely to be achieved than vague intentions (Locke & Latham, 2002).

5 Steps to Achieving Your Goals

1. Define Your Goal with Clarity and Prayer

Write it down in SMART format. For example, instead of “I want to be healthier,” say:
“I will walk for 30 minutes, 5 days a week, for the next 3 months.”

Then, take your goal to God in prayer. Ask for wisdom, strength, and discernment. Proverbs 16:3 reminds us: “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.”

2. Break It into Manageable Milestones

Large goals can feel overwhelming. Breaking them into smaller steps makes them more achievable and provides built-in opportunities to celebrate progress. Each milestone is also a moment to pause, give thanks, and pray for guidance on the next step.

3. Harness Positive Emotions, Gratitude, and Faith

Celebrate small wins, keep a gratitude journal, and thank God as you move forward. Gratitude enhances motivation and strengthens resilience (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).

As you go, imagine what it will feel like to achieve your goal—the joy, peace, or sense of accomplishment. Ask God to keep that vision alive in your heart and to help you persevere.

4. Anticipate Obstacles and Plan Ahead with God’s Help

Setbacks are normal. Create “if-then” plans:
“If it rains and I can’t walk outside, then I will do a 20-minute indoor workout.”
Studies show that implementation intentions like this significantly improve success rates (Gollwitzer, 1999). But also remember—when obstacles come, prayer can shift your perspective. Philippians 4:13 says: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

5. Review, Adjust, and Stay Connected Spiritually

Goals are not static. Reflect weekly or monthly on your progress. If your original plan isn’t working, adapt it. Flexibility increases the likelihood of long-term achievement (Sheldon & Elliot, 1999).

At each checkpoint, take time to pray—celebrating what’s working and seeking guidance on what to adjust. This keeps your goals in alignment with both your values and God’s plan for your life.

The Power of Goal Journaling

Keeping a journal of your goals and the steps you take toward them can significantly increase your chances of success. Writing down progress not only makes goals feel more concrete but also provides a space for reflection, gratitude, and prayer along the way. Research shows that tracking progress improves accountability and persistence (Baumeister & Tierney, 2011). A journal also allows you to record challenges and how you overcame them, creating a roadmap you can return to for encouragement. By documenting both milestones and emotions, you reinforce your commitment and stay motivated for the long term.

Final Thoughts

Achieving your goals is not just about willpower—it’s about working with your brain, your emotions, and your faith. By setting clear, measurable goals, expressing gratitude along the way, visualizing what success feels like, and inviting God into every step, you’ll be far more likely to stay the course and experience real, lasting change.


References

Baumeister, R. F., & Tierney, J. (2011). Willpower: Rediscovering the greatest human strength. New York, NY: Penguin Press.

Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). Self-determination theory and the facilitation of intrinsic motivation, social development, and well-being. American Psychologist, 55(1), 68–78. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.55.1.68

Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84(2), 377–389. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.84.2.377

Fredrickson, B. L. (2001). The role of positive emotions in positive psychology: The broaden-and-build theory of positive emotions. American Psychologist, 56(3), 218–226. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.56.3.218

Gollwitzer, P. M. (1999). Implementation intentions: Strong effects of simple plans. American Psychologist, 54(7), 493–503. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.54.7.493

Kringelbach, M. L., & Berridge, K. C. (2016). The neuroscience of happiness and pleasure. Social Research, 80(2), 385–406. https://www.jstor.org/stable/24385609

Locke, E. A., & Latham, G. P. (2002). Building a practically useful theory of goal setting and task motivation: A 35-year odyssey. American Psychologist, 57(9), 705–717. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.57.9.705

Pham, L. B., & Taylor, S. E. (1999). From thought to action: Effects of process- versus outcome-based mental simulations on performance. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 25(2), 250–260. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167299025002010

Sheldon, K. M., & Elliot, A. J. (1999). Goal striving, need satisfaction, and longitudinal well-being: The self-concordance model. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 76(3), 482–497. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.76.3.482